Strategies to Help You Rest and Reset
R&R/Self-Care
Allow yourself time to rest and heal. This may be sleeping in and taking naps, spending a few days in bed getting physical rest, spending time in nature, eating nourishing comfort foods, reading a favourite book or watching a favourite movie or TV show, being alone, or spending time with loved ones. The priority is rest - physical, emotional, and mental rest.
Date Night
Take time to work on your relationship as a couple. Prioritize spending time together reconnecting and doing things you love together. DO NOT spend this time taking or worrying about your child. Go out to dinner, do an activity together, join a course together, go to a movie, go to a concert or comedy club - whatever you like doing together!
Therapy/Counselling
Most (if not all!) parents of children with RAD have PTSD, secondary PTSD, anxiety, and/or depression from living with a trauma survivor and living in constant chaos. Parents also feel isolated, misunderstood, and judged constantly. It is important to have someone working with you on these issues and to support you as you parent your child. Participating in counselling or therapy will help you to be the best version of yourself for your child and can help with caregiver burnout, too.
It can also be beneficial to participate in couples counselling, family therapy, equine therapy, and/or therapy for and with healthy children.
Family Activities & Vacation
Get out and enjoy activities as a family that you are unable to do when your child with RAD is at home. Go to an amusement park, spend the day spelunking or geocaching, take a hike, visit friends, attend a sport event, go out for supper, have a movie night at home - the possibilities are endless!
If your family has been wanting to take a vacation for a while, now is a good time! Book your family vacation and spend the time resting, relaxing, and spending quality time with your loved ones.
Many parents hesitate to plan family activities or vacations while a child is in treatment or out-of-home care because they feel guilty about leaving a child out or fear what people will say about their parenting choices. However, it is necessary to have a healthy family life and to participate in "normal" family activities, and sometimes in families with children with RAD, that means doing these things while one child is away. It is not something to feel bad or guilty about.
Healthy Sibling Fun
Many times the healthy siblings in the home feel that they aren't able to be "normal" kids because of the behaviours of their sibling and the chaos they create. This is a great time to help your healthy children to have some "normal" time! Invite friends over, participate in activities, visit friends and family, loosen some schedule and routines (for those who can handle it), and give them opportunities to do some of the things they have been unable to do with their sibling in the home.
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