IN REALITY, WE ARE TRYING TO CONTROL THEM -
"It was often
very difficult to
admit that our con-
cern was control, our
worry was manipula-
tion, and our anxiety a-
bout others was an a-
voidance of our own
needs, desires, and
ambitions." (12
& 12, p. 53)
LEARNING ACCEPTANCE OUT OF NECESSITY -
"When we habitually try to manipulate others to our own willful desires, they revolt ... . Then we develop hurt feelings, a sense of persecution ... . As we redouble our efforts at control, and continue to fail, our suffering becomes acute and constant." (Life w/ Hope, p. 27)
"Living apart and at peace with myself, I came to realize more vividly the meaning of the doctrine of acceptance. To refrain from giving advice, to refrain from meddling in the affairs of others ... - so simple, yet so difficult for an active spirit. HANDS OFF!!! "
- Henry Miller (1891 - 1980) U.S. author
*HP - Higher Power - is any power greater than oneself, like Nature, the Cosmos, or even the legal system.