Children face adversity in many forms throughout life, especially when dealing with their peers. As parents how do we know when it becomes bullying and when it is time to step in? Bullying has three core elements: unwanted aggressive behavior, observed or perceived power imbalance, and repetition or high likelihood of repetition of bullying behaviors.
This is an issue that affects all youth, there is not one single profile of a young person who is bullied or becomes a bully. Most importantly, the effects of bullying may have lasting psychological effects that continue into adulthood, so it is important to know what to look for.
These are the main types of bullying to be aware of:
· Cyberbullying- online or by text
· Being the subject of rumors or lies
· Being made fun of, called names, or insulted
· Being pushed, shoved or spit on
· Left out/excluded
· Threatened with harm
· Having their personal belongings destroyed
What can your kids do?
Kids should understand the importance of telling a trusted adult. If adults do not know that bad things are happening to them, or another kid, there is no way for them to help.
If your child sees someone that is being bullied encourage them to be kind to the other child. Encourage them to include them in any way they can whether that be sitting with them at lunch or on the bus, talk to them at school, or invite them to do something. Giving a bullied child a sense of not being alone is very powerful to them.
Children can also submit a confidential tip to OK2Say, by calling 855-565-2729, text 652729 (OK2SAY), or download the iphone/android app to their phone. OK2SAY is available statewide for public and private schools; anybody can submit a confidential tip. Specially trained technicians receive tips about harmful behaviors that threaten to disrupt the learning environment.
As a parent how can you help?
Studies also have shown that adults can help prevent bullying by talking to children about bullying, encouraging them to do what they love, modeling kindness and respect, and seeking help.
Recognize the warning signs that your child is involved in bullying. They could be being bullied, bullying others, or witnessing bullying. Although these signs could signal other issues, you should talk to your child if they display any sort of behavioral or emotional changes. Many times, kids won’t ask for help, so it is important to know what to look for.
Most importantly, open lines of communication for your children and give them a space to feel comfortable telling you if they are being bullied or if someone else is. If you know of bullying, become involved with the school counselors, administrators or other parents to address the issue before it escalates.
