CHILDREN & FAMILIES FIRST

KEEPING OUR PROMISE TO YOU

December 2021


NAVIGATING THOSE AWKWARD HOLIDAY CONVERSATIONS


We've all been there... Sitting around the dinner table and a conversation starts on a topic that you wish not to contribute to. You think to yourself, how can I avoid this? Even with the best intentions of everyone, things can quickly leave you feeling uncomfortable.


At CFF, we acknowledge how important open and honest communication is - even when you're asked those awkward questions or end up in an overwhelming discussion with a loved one.


Here are five great strategies we recommend on how to handle these questions/conversations:


Establish ground rules. Setting boundaries may be new territory for most but can certainly be worth it in the end. It is okay to take controversial topics off the table immediately. If your family tends to get in heated debates about politics, religion, finances, or any other topics, it is perfectly fine to ask that these be off-limit topics.

Example - "I would really appreciate it if we would refrain from any political talk today."


Redirect the conversation. It's also fair to suggest alternative topics. If you can, we suggest focusing on common interests or shared hobbies. You can also concentrate on what brings you together as a family and spotlight favorite memories.

Example - "Mary, I'd love to steer away from religion and hear about your vacation to Disney World!"


Be firm, yet polite. If you feel that your boundaries are being overstepped, it's acceptable to protect yourself and your mental health.

Example - "Dad, I don't feel comfortable with you bringing up finances at the dinner table. It's making everyone feel awkward."


Exit the space. If you are starting to feel upset or annoyed, it's okay to take a breather. Feel free to go into another room with different people or go for a walk around the block. Clear your head.


Accept the fact that you cannot change other people's beliefs. Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs, even if you strongly disagree with them. You aren't always going to see eye to eye with everyone. It's important to learn to agree to disagree.

Example - "Aunt Margaret, I understand where you are coming from but I don't agree with you. I think it's best to agree to disagree and move on to a different subject."


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