What a different Thanksgiving this year will be. No doubt we are all missing the opportunity to gather with our families and friends.
Yet despite the loss of this special day, we still feel their support, perhaps even closer in their physical absence. Those relationships are highest on the list of things we are thankful for this year.
The security these support systems offer is something our families bring to mind often these days. It's not hard to see why. The overwhelming majority describe their experience with homelessness as scary, hopeless, and achingly lonely.
That is why a large part of our program is helping families build a support network. These connections create what is known as social capital, and the trust, understanding and belonging that come with it are a vital part of keeping families stable after they exit.
"I know now how important it is to have a tribe of people who care about me and what we're doing. They are interested in investing in my life and me in theirs."
For our families, knitting a social support network starts right in the core of the family unit. Through parenting classes and community activities, families learn to reestablish trust and build stronger bonds.
Marcy's kids entered Saranam fearful of leaving her and hesitant to start friendships. After a few short months though, they happily romp in the courtyard with other kids and go to school without worry, knowing mom and their home will be waiting for them when they get back.
Mothers like Crystal also find that their stability helps them create healthier relationships with extended family and heal years of abuse, addiction, or distrust.
"I am back in touch with my mom...every time I see her she tells me, 'I can't believe how far you've come. I'm so proud of you for doing what you're doing and not giving up.' Saranam has changed everything."
The spokes of their social support network go on and on...
- Peers in the program or support groups become like family,
- Staff and volunteers become mentors,
- They move into secure homes where they gain trusted neighbors,
- New, skilled jobs enable them to meet like-minded coworkers who become friends,
- Through volunteering and success in their career, they begin to feel like valued members of the community.
The net expands as families grow. And when a crisis hits, or we are forced to be apart, it remains strong. Just as we will.
"I can't remember any other time in my life that I could look at my phone in any sort of crisis and think which one should I call? I never had anyone to call before. I don't stress about everything anymore because I know if I can't handle something on my own then I have backup and they know they have me too. Something like that is truly priceless."
We wish you a peaceful, healthy Thanksgiving with family, friends and community- maybe not at your table- but always by your side.