Source: "The winter is long. Here's how to cope."

According to Ken Duckworth, M.D., NAMI’s chief medical officer:

Don’t worry about how things should be. “There’s a lot of cultural pressure during the holidays,” said Duckworth. “We tend to compare ourselves with these idealized notions of perfect families and perfect holidays.” But remember, those other families doubtlessly have their own stressors and ruminations to contend with.

Be realistic. You can’t please everyone the rest of the year, so why try to during the holidays? Saying ‘no,’ whether to gatherings or a present on someone’s wish list that you simply cannot find, can be one of the most challenging parts of the season. But your own mental and physical well-being needs to come first.

Don’t try to be a superhero (or heroine). We all have complex family dynamics. Acknowledge them, but also acknowledge that, despite the season’s near-universal message of unity and peace, it’s not a realistic outlook. If you must spend time with these people, try to limit your exposure.

Volunteer. Volunteering can be a great source of comfort, simply knowing that you're making a small dent in others' lives. This is a great strategy if you feel lonely or isolated. Consider seeking out other community, religious or other social events.

Based on a presentation by Lisa Guardiola, Community Mental Health Outreach and Education Trainer, Sertoma Centre, Inc., and Amy McNicholas, LCPC, Illinois Manager Faith and Health Partnerships, Advocate Aurora Health

If you are interested in hosting a mental health presentation, contact Amy McNicholas, Illinois Manager, Faith and Health Partnerships, Advocate Aurora Health.

Other suggestions include:

Since 2019, partners in the Avondale Faith and Health Collaborative, Chicago, have worked together to offer food, vaccines, masks, clothing, mental health support and other resources to help residents in the greater Avondale area live well.

But the Collaborative does much more than that, says Amy McNicholas, Illinois manager of Faith and Health Partnerships, Advocate Aurora Health. “We also build connections and relationships with community members,” she said. “That’s the heart of what we do.”

The Avondale Faith and Health Collaborative is based on the companionship movement – a ministry of presence and relationship-building that is rooted in our natural capacities as human beings to be sensitive, compassionate, and concerned.

This has been especially true throughout the pandemic, says Nilda Garcia, faith community nurse with Advocate Aurora Health. “We have been building relationships with community members at a time when we all have been feeling isolated,” she said.

For example, Nilda and Graciela Vargas, community connector with Advocate Aurora Health, have accompanied residents impacted by the pandemic’s economic downturn by linking them to utility and rent assistance, donated clothing, diapers, and food, and other resources.

Some of the donations have come from Avondale-area residents who wanted to give back as a way to say thank you for the assistance they received from the Collaborative in the past.

“Anyone one of us could be receiving or giving,” Graciela said. “It’s about bounty and what we can afford to give. When our cup overflows, we can give to someone else. It’s not about charity, but dignity.”

“That’s the power of relationship and mutuality,” Amy added. “Giving to someone just may be the nourishment someone needs.”

During the Collaborative’s November food market at St. Nicolai United Church of Christ, Chicago, residents received nutritious food, as well as donated coats and clothing.

At an upcoming food market, adults and children will receive Christmas stockings filled with socks (one of the most-requested clothing items), thanks to Kiki Collins, Director of Mission Impact, Concordia Place, and other Collaborative partners who acquired the donations and assembled the stockings.

In addition, Collaborative partners teamed up with Roseland Community Hospital to offer the COVID19 booster shot and flu vaccine for individuals age 5 and older at a weekly community meal.

At the Collaborative’s November food market at St. Nicolai United Church of Christ, Chicago, Avondale-area residents received nutritious food, as well as donated coats and clothing.

Courtesy: McCormick Theological Seminary

The next time you’re in search of a more peaceful pace to life, take a walk through one of Chicago’s neighborhoods, stop at a work of public art, and offer a prayer based on what you’re experiencing in that moment. That’s the idea behind Priscilla Rodriquez’s award-winning project that gives anyone a way to refuel, refresh and restore their souls virtually or in-person. Using a prayer guide and one of several websites, anyone can visit public art places in Chicago and turn them into sacred spaces for praying, reflecting and listening to the musings of the heart. And individuals can also do an online search for public art in their cities.

Priscilla Rodriquez at “Word Dealers,” a mural painted by John Vergara and located in Chicago’s Humboldt Park neighborhood.

“I’ve always loved art and I’m a visual learner,” said Rodriquez, MAM ’16, who serves as coordinator for McCormick’s Centers. “Chicago is filled with many expressions of public art and mosaics that tell a powerful story and also speak to issues of social justice, human rights, anti-racism, anti-violence, and other critical issues. The great news is that much of the public art is accessible virtually.”

All are welcome to this free event, which will be held both in person and on Zoom.

Amy McNicholas, LCPC, Faith and Mental Health Specialist and Manager of Faith and Health Partnerships, Illinois, is committed to supporting the emotional well-being of faith communities through a variety of programs and services:

Please email or call if you need support: amy.mcnicholas@aah.org or 630-929-9103.

Behavioral healthcare resources

Ever have a congregational member look to you for a referral for services? Or have a family that needs extra support and you aren’t sure where to send them? Need to know more about programs that are available in the neighborhood you are serving? Advocate Aurora Health recognizes the need for an up-to-date, reliable, tested list of community services that are easily accessed with a click of a button.

The Advocate Aurora Health Local Services Guide, powered by NowPow, allows you to find free and low-cost options for food, safe housing, child care, transportation and more.

This resource can help you support the people you serve and it’s provided free-of-charge to you!

The National Alliance on Mental Illness Blog covers the latest mental health research, stories of recovery, and strategies for living well.

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NAMI FaithNet is an interfaith resource network of NAMI members, friends, clergy and congregations of all faith traditions who wish to encourage faith communities who are welcoming and supportive of persons and families living with mental illness. NAMI FaithNet promotes the vital role of spirituality in the recovery journeys of many who live with mental health conditions, those for whom faith is a key component.

We hope you find this update helpful as you promote the health of your members and community. Please contact Amy McNicholas or Cindy Novak if you have questions or topics you'd like us to address. Thank you!

Faith and Mental Health Quarterly provides updates on mental health resources, events and news to support the well-being of people in your congregation and community. Please contact Cindy Novak if you have news to share, topics you'd like addressed or if you have questions or concerns. Thank you!