Words of Encouragement
from Rhonda Abrams, Bereavement Coordinator
The death of a spouse is one of the most devastating and life altering losses a person will encounter. It is the most frequent topic of concern in our grief support groups. In an instant, so many areas of your life are changed, and a sound support system is not just a convenience but a necessity. As a widow/widower, you must suddenly make the adjustment to operating as an individual again. This is all in addition to the already raw anguish of grief.
As a married person you think and do everything as a team. Your very identity is tied to your role in the family. Social and emotional bonds are built as you go about your daily routines and shared life experiences. There is a synching of hearts and souls.
Losing a husband or wife creates a vacancy that cannot otherwise be filled. The most devastating part of the death can be the absence of your spouse’s physical presence. Gone is their unique personality, their charm, their intellect, their daily greeting and farewell, even the parts of them that got on your last nerve. There is no longer “the other half” to bounce things off of, to vent, or to celebrate victories with. Because of this dramatic shift, you may experience feelings such as loneliness, stress, anger, fear, confusion, guilt, regret, and anxiety.
But still, there is hope. There is a Divine Companion to walk with you through this life adjustment and help you find peace and new purpose. Our support groups are also here to walk with you and help you through these difficult days. We have a network of other widows/widowers who have walked the road ahead of you and who bravely share their life stories to bring you encouragement and an anchor while the waves crash all around you. Not only will you survive, you will find your path and you will again thrive and love again.
