Happy Sunday, Lions!
Welcome to February! I hope each of you had a wonderful and restful weekend. On Friday, the Riverwalk Academy staff participated in a virtual professional development put on by NAMI of SC. The SC Chapter of the National Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI) lead an interactive session entitled Refresh and Reclaim.
We spent time talking about "boundaries." Boundaries are defined as any physical, mental, or emotional limits we establish to protect ourselves. Establishing boundaries are important for all of us, regardless of our role (parent or teacher). Listening to our staff talk about boundaries really got me thinking. I found myself asking myself, have I established boundaries with my staff? What about with our parents and students? I also began thinking about the boundaries that our staff has established. Do I know their boundaries? Do I respect their boundaries?
Some of the examples of healthy boundaries that our staff developed were:
- It's okay to say "no"
- It's okay to say "yes" (when support is offered)
- It's okay to say "thank you" without feelings of regret or shame (or even an apology)
- It's okay to delegate
- It's okay to protect "me" time
- It's okay to ask for space (we all need our own time)
Most of us can agree to the above statements. The real question becomes, how do I do this in practice?"
The presenters covered three concepts that can help many of us learn "the how" of establishing boundaries.
Create:
- Make specific boundaries that that honor your values (e.g. if your family values "family time" an appropriate boundary could be "I will not check my work email on Sunday in order to spend more time doing things with my family on Sunday)
State:
- (your boundaries) to yourself and to others e.g. informing your colleagues (or others) that you will not text/calls/email after 8:00 pm each night
Maintain:
- Be prepared for some resistance with boundaries that involve others (and even from yourself)
- You may need to restate your boundaries, but do so in a calming and supporting way
So let me ask, What boundaries have you established with your family or with your colleagues? In what ways have your implemented these boundaries without feeling guilty?
Setting boundaries is a difficult but necessary thing to do.
I'd like to close this week's newsletter with the following quote from Prentis Hemphill:
Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.
I hope each of you has a wonderful week!
In Strength and Blessings,
~Dr. Compton
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