"Our family eats dessert before dinner on our gotcha days!"

"Lucky. What do you have?"

"My mom makes chocolate fondue!"

 Turns to her mother and says:

"Mom, let's' do that on my gotcha day."

Smiles and knowing glances all around!

Overheard this conversation at the latest JFS Foster and Adoption Picnic. This darling exchange speaks volumes as to why adoptive families need to know other adoptive families. Keep reading to learn why these connections are crucial to your family and how you can connect with others.  

We Are Social Creatures

In today's modern society, it is so easy to forget that we are truly social creatures who need each other. We are hardwired to depend on others to survive. As busy as this world is, it's helpful to be reminded of the value in having meaningful connections with others outside of one's immediate family. It takes work to develop and maintain these connections to others. Adoptive families especially can benefit from knowing others who are in the same boat as them. Learn why sharing your unique lives with others in similar circumstances creates healthier, happier families. 

How Do I Do I Even Meet Other Adoptive Families?

If you have made it this far in the Newsletter then something has resonated with you about needing and wanting to connect with other adoptive families. Although it may seem overwhelming to find a way to find such families, read on for various ways to connect virtually and in-person. The benefits of knowing other adoptive families are innumerable and far outweigh the efforts and fear of making yourself vulnerable.

Dear Director,

I was at back-to-school last night at my adopted daughter’s school. Boy, did I feel alienated and out of place. The other moms were all worried about picture day and being able to access their child’s grades. I am just happy when my 11-year-old daughter gets to the bus on time and has a day with no major behavioral incidents. I see now what everyone has been saying about the value of knowing other adoptive families. But I know none. I just don’t even know where to start meeting and connecting with other similar families. 

Please help!