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When instances of sexual abuse are uncovered in camps & Ys, it’s easy to wonder how such disturbing behavior went unnoticed. But most offenders are skilled at blending in and staying under the radar, regardless of whether they interact with children in virtual or in-person environments.
Offenders follow a grooming process to select and prepare a child for inappropriate sexual contact. When your staff understands how an abuser’s grooming process works, they will be better equipped to spot warning signs and intervene.
1. Gaining access
In this step, the offender:
- Seeks out opportunities related to children.
- Gains your staff’s trust by appearing helpful, trustworthy and kind.
- Knows what children want and need – often giving them small gifts.
- Skillfully communicates with them online and offline, and of course in person.
2. Selecting a child
Offenders seek out children who exhibit these traits:
- Unconnected, on the fringe or in need.
- Looking for someone to follow or trust.
- From a single-parent home.
- Interested in alcohol, drugs or pornography.
3. Introducing nudity and sexual touch
Once the offender has been able to isolate the child, these activities often occur to test and erode the child’s barriers:
- Sexual discussion and joking.
- Playful touch and “accidental nudity.”
- Acceptance/encouragement of nudity as “cool.”
- Images or videos depicting nudity/sexual activity readily available.
4. Keeping the victim silent
Offenders try to prevent their victims from telling others about the abuse through these methods:
- Emphasizing secrecy.
- Capitalizing on the child’s feelings of shame and embarrassment.
- Issuing threats (direct or subtle).
Sadly, it often takes seven times for a child to tell someone they are being abused before an investigation begins. When a child shares something that indicates potential sexual abuse, report it immediately.
For an in depth webinar on peer to peer abuse we hosted from renowned sex abuse prevention national expert Greg Love, Esq. of Abuse Prevention Systems, click the link below - you will be glad you did.
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