How to Deal with Your Impatience
If you're tired of your impatience and the havoc it is wreaking within yourself and with those around you, there is a remedy. Give it up. Turn it over. Accept that things go at a different pace than you'd choose if you ran the world. Surrender.
When you begin to feel that familiar antsiness, the first thing to do is pause, step back and take a few measured breaths, while repeating, "Stop. Breathe. Relax."
Though you might feel like you'd rather die than give up your need for things to go at your pace, It's worth the effort. As I mentioned, the underlying emotions behind impatience are fear and anger. To dispel the fear you need to move the pure energy out of your body. As silly as it sounds, shiver and quiver. Tremble like a dog at the vet. Up the spine. Out your arms, legs, and hands. Do it hard, fast and with abandon for literally 90 seconds or until you start laughing. If you practice this whenever you feel impatient, you will notice a feeling of calm overtaking your body.
After moving the physical energy by shivering, it's important to think constructive thoughts about the situation, such as:
* Everything is all right.
* Everything will be okay.
* This isn't life or death.
* Life goes at a different pace than I'd like.
* Enjoy the moment right now.
* Let go.
To deal with your anger, excuse yourself, move to a secure location, and push against a wall, growl into a pillow, or stomp your feet to release the hot anger energy. If this isn't your thing, or after you move the anger energy, try repeating to yourself over and over, "People and things are the way they are, not the way I want them to be."
