In the video for this month (link below if you missed it,) there were some basic action steps on helping your teen choose friends wisely. We want to include those in this email so that you can have a resource to use when you need it!
- Give them tools to wisely choose their friends. Tools such as making a list of qualities they want in a friend, understanding what Godly qualities look like, and recognizing the influence friends have on them.
- Help your teen create boundaries with their friends.
- Teach them how to let a friendship dissolve without letting it affect their self esteem.
- Take a step back! You can guide and encourage them in their choice, but do so without manipulating them. Understand that this is a very important step in the life of your teen, don’t take it personally.
One of the most beautiful pictures of friendship in the Bible is the relationship between David and Jonathan. In 1 Samuel chapter 18 it says, ”…Jonathan committed himself to David, and loved him as much as he loved himself.” The greatest lesson to be learned from their friendship is not what to look for in a friend, but how to be the kind of friend that honors God. Trustworthy, honest ,kindhearted, loyal, and faithful are all wonderful qualities to find in a friend. Our teens need to know those qualities must be fostered in themselves first and then searched for in others.
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