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Welcome to August Loves,
I cannot believe that we are closing in on the end of Summer already! (I think that every August Newsletter that I have ever written begins with this line.) With this in mind I am going to keep this one short and sweet.
What I have been thinking about a lot these days is the mind-body connection. If you've had any coaching with me, then you know that it's at the top of my importance list. When we are healing from trauma it takes on even more importance and this is simply because we have dysregulated nervous systems as a result of trauma. We will be learning more about this when we start reading The Body Keeps the Score in the Village Book Club next month...everyone is encouraged to join. When we are triggered by something our thinking brains "go offline" and so what we feel manifests in our bodies. A trigger is your brain telling your body that it is not safe (think adrenaline dump, increased heartbeat, sweaty palms, rapid breathing, feelings of panic, etc.) I would like to suggest that you try to practice this the next time you are triggered:
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Notice that you are being triggered (the most important step).
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Take a very slow deep breath (box breathing).
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Tell yourself "It's okay I am safe" and repeat.
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Continue your box breathing.
The purpose is to send a message to your body from your brain that you are safe. This kind of practice helps to integrate the mind body experience and can calms the nervous systems reaction. It sounds relatively simple, because it is, but it is a practice to learn. If you are able to notice and acknowledge in the moment that you are being triggered you can learn how to manage the trauma response. Try it a couple times if it doesn't help, we will try something else.
On that note I want to also let you know that I am going to be starting free private individual (1:1) life coaching sessions with women in the Village next month. See below for more info and directions to put your name on the list for the lottery draw (a lottery is the fairest way for us to select clients because of my limited calendar availability). I am really looking forward to this and our hope is to receive funding in order to expand this program to accomodate more women every month.
I wish you peace and love as you make your way to September, and be sure to take time to notice and appreciate all the everyday miracles in your life.
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“We are all just walking each other home."
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Ella Hicks is a trauma informed life coach and founder of Rebel Thriver, a not-for-profit that works with survivors of domestic violence. She is a mother, an artist, and a survivor herself. Her favorite color is the ocean.
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Rebel Thriver has been a constant support for this community for over 10 years
and we will continue to be here for you for many more years to come.
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Our mission is to inspire, empower, educate, advocate, support, and offer a community where survivors of domestic abuse are supported by other survivors. A place to call home, with guidance to create a roadmap forward to a healthy and abundant life, full of hope for a better tomorrow.
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Life Coaching with Ella Hicks in the Village
I am so excited to be able to start offering private individual (1:1) coaching sessions to the incredible women in our tribe this September.
Sign your name under the above post in the Village for a chance to secure a session. Due to limited spaces we will be randomingly picking 4 women via a lottery drawing. Our hope is to receive funding in order to expand this program to accomodate more women. Please look for this post in our featured section and add your name under it. If your name is selected I will be in touch about scheduling your session. 💙
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Profits from every item purchased goes directly back into the operating costs to enable the continued creation of sustainable programs at a reasonable price for all of you.
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I'd love you to check out my guest spot on the Her Self Expression Podcast as I talk about Life After An Abusive Relationship with host Beverly Price.
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UPCOMING on Her Self Expression Podcast:
Mark your calendars for Aug. 24th at 7pm EDT
Ella Hicks gives a Q & A on Emotional and Verbal Abuse on Her Self Expression Podcast with Beverly Price.
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What we're reading in July & August: | |
The Keeper of Lost Things | |
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A charming, clever, and quietly moving debut novel of endless possibilities & joyful discoveries that explores the promises we make and break, losing and finding ourselves, the objects that hold magic and meaning for our lives, and the surprising connections that bind us.
JOIN THE BOOKCLUB
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EVERYONE IS INVITED!
On September 16th, Ella will lead The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk in our Village bookclub. This is a must read for anyone who is trying to learn about trauma and how it affects us. We will be going one chapter a week coupled with a weekly Zoom discussion in the Village. We will take our time and when we finish we will pick up another book and keep going.
Join the Bookclub
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"This is an absolutely fascinating and clearly written book by one of the nation's most experienced physicians in the field of emotional trauma. The Body Keeps the Score helps us understand how life experiences play out in the function and the malfunction of our bodies, years later."
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Be a part of our NEW coaching program and learn how you can strengthen your personal foundation and begin building a roadmap forward to a better future. This is a self paced two part program that you can sign up for anytime. If you feel like you are drifting along rudderless, let this be a guide. | | | |
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*There is a $15 USD fee to sign up. Anyone who wants to participate but cannot afford it can request a fee waiver. Please send us an email: connect@rebelthriver.org
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"I can't believe the kindness I encountered here in the Village!
I can't believe how many kind people there are in one place,
after I only found a handful throughout my life journey." - Karin
If you haven't yet joined our private community platform you are really missing out. To have this kind of support as we each navigate the path of our individual healing is priceless. We offer courses, life coaching, support groups, a book club, a merchandise shop, and topic rooms galore. Everyday we have dozens of new people joining from all around the globe. When I say you are not alone, we truly mean it. As of today our Village has over 18oo members.
I look forward to greeting you personally when you arrive!
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Wherever you are right now on this big beautiful planet please know that you matter so very much. You may not feel that you are extraordinary, but you are. There is no other person in this world who is just like you. Your gifts are singularly yours. Don't be afraid to illuminate the world with them. The world needs all of us to show up, now more than ever.
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