Therapeutic Ways to Act
Felt Safety
Building felt safety through concrete actions is a key aspect of therapeutic parenting. Parents can do this by using techniques such as:
- 6-foot rule or line-of-vision supervision
- door alarms for nighttime physical and felt safety and emotional security
- providing consistency and a predictable environment
- providing intentional nurturing and love
Instead of telling your child they are safe and loved in your home, show them they are safe and loved in your home.
Therapeutic Actions
Acting therapeutically when dealing with defiance, disrespect, destructiveness, or limit-testing behaviours, and when providing nurture and teaching life skills (chores, homework, hygiene, etc.) helps kids to develop trust and feelings of safety.
- Use the 3BI program (below) for dealing with behaviours
- Use felt safety techniques to act in safe ways
- Provide strong loving leadership
- Use "stick-to-it-ivness"
- Provide opportunities to experience success
Strong Loving Leadership
To help concrete thinkers who have a lack of access to logic and reasoning, provide opportunities for them to physically see you as the strong loving leader that you are (someone who will keep them physically, emotionally, and mentally safe), by using these techniques:
- lead the way: have your child walk beside you or behind you
- practice physical attachment with hand-holding
- stand heart-to-heart and make eye contact when talking with your child
- have your child physically look up to you during therapeutic interactions
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