When we think of mentors, we often think of them in a professional capacity. However, mentors can play a very important role in the lives of young people too, especially when they reach adolescence. The simple definition of a mentor is “an experienced and trusted adviser."

As a parent, I desire that my children always have the guidance, support, encouragement, and relationships they need to become who they were created and purposed to be. Not long after becoming a parent, I quickly realized that it would take more than just me and their father to provide those things. They would need other positive adults, as well, to provide wisdom and direction… AND to ME as I raised them. They would need mentors, teachers, and coaches to help them on their journey.

I attribute so much of my growth, knowledge, and ability, to my parents, but also to the teachers and mentors who have supported and provided me with wisdom. An effective mentor is someone who has an interest in the child’s wellbeing and future, is a good listener, can push the child to reach their goals, and can help them build life skills such as critical thinking. Be encouraged to help your child find other significant adults in their life. Start with your kid’s interests and seek out mentors in the community that you are familiar with. Be sure to do your homework and find someone who will be a good role model for your child.

Oprah Winfrey once said, “A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside of yourself.” As I reflect on my life, I realize it is a tapestry of experiences that have shaped me into the woman I am today. However, it is my parents that have woven core values into my life.

I pride myself in being from a military family. As we traveled the world during my formative years, my father instilled in me the values of loyalty, strength, and kindness. Just like his commitment to our country, he established in me an allegiance to serve others.

My mother, a teacher, fostered an environment of love, growth, and learning. She was an apex of excellence that provided the foundation for me to achieve my goals. Her altruism formed in me a desire to help others so that they might climb to the height of their potential.

My life is a canvas of principles that my parents helped me to form. However, no matter how strong we think we are independently, we are better individuals with the help of a mentor.

Sincerely,

Nicole Frazier

AAYLC Board President