A realistic self-assessment can enable caregivers to avoid the "shoulda/coulda/woulda" motivation trap by asking themselves: "Am I doing the best I can?" Can I cut myself with slack? Am I willing to learn from "when I know better, I do better"?
When feelings of self judgement arise regarding my caregiving, do I check in with myself to assess: Am I hungry, tired, or frustrated? Am I overwhelmed, in physical pain, or feeling a level of grief over the circumstances I'm facing?
It is common to turn on ourselves when in a state of overwhelm. Take the opportunity to take deep breaths, walk away, practice “mindfulness” by imagining compassion for yourself now faced with the disappointment, grief, and lifestyle circumstances never, ever anticipated.
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