It's the LOVE month!
Which is really every moment, every day, every month, every year.
Valentine's day was my favorite holiday as a kid.
I love love and sharing kindness and affection,
and I love being love (aka, what we are).
For many years I bought into the collective story that we needed to find
someone to love us to be complete. But, thankfully something inside kept beckoning me to look deeper than this.
What I found was far greater than the love of another, which is most often (whether we want to admit it or not) conditional. I have found that when
I am in need, when I am feeling incomplete, when I want something or
someone outside of myself, I put conditions on love...
And, this is not the love I truly wanted, to give or receive.
What I was really seeking was Sovereignty, a feeling of wholeness inside
of myself, a trueness to my own essence - which surprise, surprise -
it turns out... is LOVE itself.
As many of you know I have been on the spiritual psychology path for many years. I looked high and low, inside and out to find love and connection,
peace and clarity, joy and inspiration. Along the way, I rejected many
things, situations and relationships that didn't resonate with my being.
It was never easy... but it was a calling deep in my heart...
to stay true to my own inner guidance and path.
For many of these years I was frustrated and discontent.
But I kept seeking, digging deeper, and feeling all the feelings and frustrations (and I stayed in trialogue with my higher Self, conscious (personality) self
and inner child). I committed first and foremost to knowing myself,
to finding truth, speaking truth and being true... to my being.
That is personal sovereignty. Authentic Self alignment.
I knew relationships were risky for me because when another does not have this personal sovereignty, they are not truly free to love (myself included).
Love then comes with condition, and often control, manipulation, distortion, compromise and settling, bringing levels of inner guilt and resentment with it. That just didn't sit right with me. I wanted to find free and lasting love.
The more I searched, the more my frustrations grew... the earth school is overflowing with trickery and seduction, and there were many times I wondered why I was so weird, so single, so 'difficult'. I often questioned if my fears of intimacy were running me (and they played a role too).
But one day (well many days, and many layers later), thankfully,
my heart finally broke open to the love I have always been.
Nothing to seek outside, but plenty to bask in, enjoy, share, give
and receive... for if I am the Beloved... so are each of you.
And, I don't need you to be, do, or give me anything to be complete.
I married myself - higher self and lower self
(and all the in-between selves) several years ago
and renewed my vows in a sacred self-marriage ceremony in Mexico.
I have led other women on this self-love journey too, and it is profound.
My wish for you, wherever you find yourself on your journey, is that today
you touch into your own tender heart and give yourself a big hug
knowing you are worthy of the precious Belovedness you are.
My encouragement is also to let go of the lies you've been sold and told
that love is outside, and you need to be good or pretty or smart
or rich or interesting enough, or anything to get it.
It's simply not true.
While relationships add much mirroring, depth and dimension to our lives,
and they are essential, and can be wonderful and uplifting...
You are the Beloved here and now. And always.
Whether you are flying Soulo or in partnership, the opportunity for
loving is always present…. Because LOVE is what we are.
I love you
Teri Jo
