In a Montessori classroom, our goal is to encourage children to be independent and learn how to do things for themselves. This happens when children are given opportunities to complete tasks independently, such as dressing themselves, cleaning up, choosing their work, and helping adults with tasks. When children are able to do things for themselves, it increases their self-efficacy, confidence and self-esteem, which will carry on throughout their lives. Not only is this important in the classroom, but it is also very important at home as well.
“Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed.” – Maria Montessori
Maria Montessori understood that in order to be free, one needs to be independent. Families who are new to the Montessori Method can misunderstand this concept, and expect a child to become independent by granting them freedom of choice without limits. Instead, we must offer our children freedom within limits. For example, try giving the child two options such as, "We can choose this book or this book" or "You can take your hat off or your coat off first."
How do parents go about encouraging independence in their children? Here are some helpful ideas for parents to incorporate Practical Life activities at home, and foster the confidence and positive development as part of the Montessori philosophy of an “education for life.”
Try starting with personal care and hygiene. Allow your young children to do things for themselves with your guidance and supervision. Assist only when needed. What if they can’t reach the sink? Provide a step stool. What if they can’t see that they are missing part of their head when washing their hair? Hold up a mirror so they can see. Dr. Montessori told us to let children do for themselves what they are capable of and to provide the tools necessary for success.
Stop! Next time you catch yourself doing something for your child and ask yourself, “Can my child do without my assistance?"
When you hear your child say, “I did it!” it will be music to your ears!
