Toy Drive : Christmas lists of Giving.
Our children with RAD have a very hard time thinking of others and keeping their brains on positive thoughts. Having a Christmas tradition that focuses on giving and thinking of others can be a great boost to healing and family bonding.
Many fire stations will hold a toy drive before Christmas, and contacting your local fire house to see how your family can help can be a great way to get started. If there isn't a toy drive in your area, start one with family and friends and contact local shelters, children's hospitals, or Child and Family Services to find families in need.
Once you have something in place, sit together as a family and have each person create a Christmas Wish List - for others: what you wish another child (or adult) could have for Christmas. (It can be a bit easier sometimes if you give everyone a certain age range to work with.)
Once lists are made and shopping is done (yay for Amazon and Etsy!), spend an afternoon together wrapping the gifts and adding personalized tags to them.
Load them up and drop them of or arrange for the organization you're working with to pick up the gifts.
On Christmas Day look over the lists everyone made and the list of items that were purchased and who the gifts were given to in place of your usual family gift opening as a reminder of others and the giving of Christmas.