1. AVOID ABSOLUTES AND EXAGGERATIONS.
Try to correct your internal voice when it exaggerates, especially when it exaggerates the negative: “I always eat too much” or “I’ll never lose weight.” These are absolutes, meaning they’re always 100 percent true, but there are very few absolutes in life. If you tend to exaggerate or use absolutes, try to rephrase what you say.
2. TURN NEGATIVE THOUGHTS TO POSITIVE.
Sometimes putting a stop to negative thinking can be challenging, but sometimes it can be rather simple. The next time you start giving yourself a hard time, try thinking of how you'd speak to a friend or stranger in the same situation.
3. LOOK FOR THE LOVE.
Did you know that love is a word derived from the Sanskrit word that means looking for the good? Be loving toward yourself (and others), and try to focus your energy on your strengths and assets.
4. IT'S OKAY!
Remember: It’s okay. All people have weaknesses, and we all fall off the path at times or don’t do things as well as we think we should. Your boss, co-workers, friends, family, mayor and favorite movie star have all had embarrassing or frustrating moments and setbacks. Focus on what you’ve gained from the process and how you can use it in the future.
5. TRY TO LOSE THE GUILT.
You’re not to blame every time something goes wrong or someone has a problem. Apologizing for things and accepting the blame can be a positive quality — if you're in the wrong. But you shouldn’t feel responsible for all problems or assume you’re to blame whenever someone’s upset. I challenge you to try to use the words “I apologize” instead of "I'm sorry" and see if you feel less guilt.
6. YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU.
Just as not everything is your fault, not everything is your responsibility, either. It’s lovely to be helpful, but try not to feel the need to be all things (and do all things) for all people. This is putting too much of a burden on yourself — try to set boundaries with yourself and others so you're not pushing off your own happiness and well-being.
7. BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR FEELINGS.
You create your own feelings and make your own decisions. People and events may set the stage for your emotions, but they can’t dictate them. What’s important is what you tell yourself, and how you react to others.
8. LET BYGONES BE BYGONES.
Your past can take control of your present and rob your future if you let it. If you can, forgive past wrongs and move on. This includes forgiving yourself and others. The purpose of forgiveness is to set you free, since holding onto anger is like putting yourself in a jail cell. If you have a hard time forgiving or forgetting, consider talking through your emotions with a good friend or counselor to work through these emotions.
9. FOCUS ON WHAT'S POSSIBLE.
Try to avoid “can’t” thinking or other negative language. Don’t be afraid to seek help in accomplishing things or overcoming challenges. Remind yourself of all your capabilities and positive qualities, and believe in yourself!
Article from: https://www.gaiam.com/blogs/discover/positive-thinking-strategies-to-help-you-achieve-your-goals
