Conversation Tips for talking to a woman who might be considering an abortion.
by Erin Ortega
If a woman tells you she's pregnant, don't assume she's excited about it. A great follow up questions is "How do you feel about that?" Giving her the space to come up with her own definition of how she's feeling can be a great way to practice being a safe space for her emotionally.
If she's less than ecstatic, validate her feelings. Phrases like "It's ok to take time to process. This is a big change." Or "I know this is scary right now, but it will be ok." can help ease the shame or guilt she may be experiencing.
Follow up with practical help. Focus on her. Jumping straight to "your baby is a blessing" while true, may not be the helpful step you think it is, in this particular situation. Questions like "How can I help you?" or suggestions like "this seems like a longer conversation than 5 minutes, and I really want to help, how about we get together this week and talk it over?" Then follow through.
Keep in mind prayer is your best line of defense. God can do it all. Don't feel like you have to have all the answers. If God calls you to walk along side this woman, He will prepare you and her for it. All you have to do is be faithful.
No matter what her ultimate decision is, your job is to love. If she decides to abort and you respond with shame and guilt, you could ruin her perception of God and your relationship with her. Remember, it's the Holy Spirit who convicts. Our job is to love.