Salaams y'all,
I can't believe how quickly this term is flying by! I hope that your midterms have been going well insha'Allah and that you've had an enriching term so far.
I was speaking with a student recently and they were sharing that they felt they hadn't accomplished what they thought they would by this time in the year. We did an exercise where I had them list out every thing they HAD accomplished this year. Every time they let words slip like "should" or "but," I reminded them that for the purposes of the exercise, we needed to focus just on accomplishments. We ended up with a LONG list of everything they had done so far this year, and I took care to send them the list to read over and use to remind themself whenever they were questioning their abilities or accomplishments. We both agreed it felt REALLY good to do that exercise!
I can totally relate to the feelings this student expressed, and I've used this exercise with myself in various ways over the years as well. Almost 10 years ago now (!!!), when I was feeling particularly good, well-rested, grounded & connected to myself, I created a list of attributes about myself that I love and appreciate. I originally wrote it in a journal but have since transferred it to my phone; I add to it when I'm feeling good, and turn to it when I'm feeling down. I've even had to edit it because of the reality that I have changed so much in the last 10 years! I also created a folder in the notes of my phone labeled "affirmations" that includes sweet notes to myself and text messages from friends that remind me to see my FULL self even when I'm feeling down.
I share all of this because I know that it comes as second nature for many of us - especially those of us who lean towards perfectionist tendencies - to question our abilities, our accomplishments, or our self-worth. And it takes intentional, ongoing and very LITERAL effort to develop skills to push ourselves towards self-love and self-acceptance. I believe it is from a place of self-acceptance that we can grow into our most expansive, generous selves.
Wishing you self-acceptance, expansion & growth,
Maryam
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TOMORROW: FAMILY WEEKEND JUMU'AH |
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WHEN: 1pm-1:30pm ET
WHO: Imam Waheed
TOPIC: They Plan and Allah Plans
Family weekend has gone virtual! Be sure to invite your family to listen in to tomorrow's khutbah and stay on after for some friendly competition.
IN-PERSON JUMU'AH
WHERE: Bolton Family Tower Room
WHEN: 1pm-1:30pm ET
*SIGN UP BELOW TO ATTEND IN-PERSON JUMU'AH.*
*YOU MUST BRING YOUR OWN PRAYER RUG*
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Missed last week's khutbah? Listen to previous khutbahs here.
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FRIDAY (10/16): MSA FRIDAYS: HORROR MOVIE NIGHT |
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WHEN: 8pm ET
Shudder at some jumpscares with the MSA as they watch a horror movie this Friday at 8 EST.
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TUESDAY (10/20): WEEKLY QUR'AN READING |
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WHEN: 6pm-7pm ET
Come listen or join in as the Qur’an is read in Arabic by students practicing their recitation. Afterwards, engage in conversation to connect more deeply with the verses.
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THURSDAY (10/22): NAVIGATING RELATIONSHIPS WHILE MUSLIM |
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PASSCODE: thisishard
WHEN: 6pm-7:30pm ET
Join the Center for Muslim Life for an anonymous story circle, where participants will have a chance to share their experiences with and hear from others about the difficulties, challenges, successes and triumphs that come with navigating relationships as Muslim students. Sign up for an opportunity to share your experiences, learn from your peers, and develop new tools and strategies for navigating complicated social terrain.
While this event is for Duke undergraduate and graduate students, others are welcome to share stories and advice relevant to Muslim students as well!
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THURSDAY (10/22): CHRONOPOLITICAL ASSEMBLAGES: HOW GENDER REASSIGNMENT MAKES RACIAL GENUS IN MODERN IRAN |
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REGISTER HERE FOR ZOOM INFO
WHEN: 6pm-7:30pm ET
This talk examines the co-constitutive relationship between race/ism, sexuality, and time in modern Iran to argue that contemporary Iranians use a racial calculus to measure sexed and gendered modernity. It intervenes in how Iranians today narrate their experiences of gender non-conformity in popular media produced for the West to suggest that gender in Iran is a code word for race, is a code word for genus, or 'jins'. Dr. Shadee Malaklou argues that the Islamic Republic's uncanny support for sex change employs the logic of race science not to make trans subjectivities but, rather, to make a new Iranian: one that, in being trans, is able to climb the human's ladder of time, which is his ladder of racial modernity, in order to be eligible for the polished and perfected (but notably, not universal) humanism that Enlightenment Europe promised to Iran but never delivered. More information.
This event is sponsored by the Duke Islamic Studies Center, Duke University Middle East Studies Center, The Center for Muslim Life at Duke, Juhood Magazine, and The Focus Program at Duke.
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THURSDAY (10/29): US CONSTRUCTION OF RACE & HOW TO DISRUPT RACIST SYSTEMS |
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REGISTER HERE FOR ZOOM INFO
WHEN: 6pm-7:30pm ET
Kiah Glenn, Assistant Director of the Center for Race, Ethnicity & Diversity Education at Elon University will be with us for this talk on the US construction of race and how to disrupt racist systems. More information.
This event is sponsored by the Duke Islamic Studies Center, Duke University Middle East Studies Center, The Center for Muslim Life at Duke, Juhood Magazine, and The Focus Program at Duke.
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TODAY: PROPHET MUHAMMAD (PBUH)'S DEATH |
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Prophet Muhammad (SAW) died shortly after his final sermon that he gave during the month of Dhul Hijj. Many Muslims believe the exact date of his death was the 28th of Safar which falls today, October 15th.
During this time the CML would like to remind our community of a special verse from the Qur'an and parting words from the Prophets last sermon.
"God and His angels send blessings on the Prophet. O you who believe, send blessings on him and beautiful greetings of peace." Qur'an 33:56
"Reason well, therefore, O People, and understand my words that I convey to you. I leave behind me two things, the Qur'an and my example. If you follow these you will never go astray. All those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again; and may the last ones understand my words better than those who listen to me directly." From Prophets Last Sermon
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THE CML WANTS TO HEAR FROM YOU |
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The CML is assessing our marketing strategies to our community!
Please take 60 seconds to let us know how YOU learn about Duke events and announcements!
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DUKE MUSLIM ALUMNI ASSOCIATION BOARD MEETING |
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Have ideas for how to engage with Duke Muslim alumni? Join next month's Duke MAA Board Meeting on Saturday, October 24th from 12pm - 2pm ET.
Sign up to register for the virtual meeting here. All Duke current and future alumni are welcome!
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There are two remaining opportunities for folks to sign up to attend:
Tuesday, October 20th from 5pm - 7pm ET
Wednesday, November 11th from 10am - 12 pm ET
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The Chapel is open to students to #FindSanctuary. Duke students of any faith and no faith at all are welcome to sign up for a time to meditate, reflect, pray, contemplate, or just be in the Chapel.
Ticketed timeslots for students are: 10:00 a.m.–2:00 p.m. Tuesday through Thursday, as of October 6th
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Mondays | Starting October 26th- November 16th
Time: 3:00pm-4:15pm ET
Are you a student of color looking for ways to manage your stress and anxiety? Need a safe space to explore your mental and physical wellness? Join the POC Koru Meditation 4-week series for a safe community space with wellness resources and tools based on your needs.
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