Bits & Tips: Fall 2019 Edition
YUConnects offers unique social events, targeted matchmaking and educational programs to foster healthy relationships toward marriage. 
It is self-funded and open to the entire Jewish community.

381
engagements and counting!
Recent Engagements:

Sara Ostrow
of Forest Hills, NY
Larry Rosenblum
of
Roslyn, NY
Matched by
Mrs. Varda Berkovitz
 
Malka Goldreich
of Toronto, Canada
Shmuel Hakakian
of Baltimore, MD

Matched by
Mrs. Sima Sudaley
 
Dalia Schreier
of Woodmere, NY
Tzvi Nash
of Bergenfield, NJ

Matched by
Mrs. Malky Galler
 
Chani Altman
of Baltimore, MD
Benjamin Kreitman
of Potomac , MD

Matched by
Mr. & Mrs. Yossie & Tami Stal 
Sara Willig
of New York, NY
Dr. Yaakov Idell
San Jose, CA

Matched by 
Mrs. Betty Nissenfeld
Dini Bialestock
of Chicago, IL
Gavriel Johnston
of Chicago, IL

Matched by 
Mr. Yehudis Miller
Yosefa Hirsch
of New York, NY
Aaron Kaminas
of Queens, NY

Matched by 
Mr. James Parnes
 
Shira Rosner
of Queens, NY
Josh Friedman
of West Hempstead, NY

Matched by  
Suggest-a-match Feature   
 
Elizabeth Carmen
of Chicago, IL
Colin Bergman
of London, England

Matched by 
Mrs. Rachel Cohen

Tova Baharlias 
of Brooklyn, NY 
Stewart Doberman
of Monsey, NY

Matched by
Mrs. Merav Samuel

Adina Cohen 
La Jolla, CA 
Moshe Bochner
of Monsey, NY 

Matched by
Mrs. Mindy Eisenman

Smile of the Day



YUConnects Pay It ForWed
Did you know that YUConnects has many resources for newly engaged couples? Check out our website to see what we offer. And, your donation to our non-profit will entitle you to unique tefilla cards for use at your chuppa. Should you be blessed with making a Simcha, your support of YUConnects can ensure others benefit as well. What a beautiful way to " Pay it ForWed!
Wedding Checklist  for the Wedding Day 
Beautiful Tefilla Cards  f or use at the Chuppah  Ceremony 
* A List of Kallah and Chosson Teachers  within your  community. Call our office for recommendations. 
Tribute Cards  to give in celebration of the big day

SUN - Singles Uniting Network 
New initiative to help singles in your community!

What: Periodic meetings of singles to network and act as matchmakers for each other. 
Where: Each Shul will appoint a facilitator who will run and host the meetings of singles at their home
For more information: read the article  here and contact David Katzoff at SinglesUnitingNetwork@gmail.com

  Check out our
  
Read about events, activities and great links for hot topics in dating! 

Center for the Jewish Future
Yeshiva University 
500 W 185th St., Furst Hall 419
New York, New York 10033
646-592-4259
yuconnects@yu.edu

            
upcoming events

Dating Discussion
When:   Thursday, Nov. 21
 @ 8 pm
Who:  Men and women in their 20's
Where: Congregation Bnai Yeshurun in Teaneck, NJ
Price : $10 payable at the event
What: Conversation on Dating Trends & Topics in 2020.  
Register:  Click HERE to register.
Information:  yuconnects@yu.edu or 
646-592-4259


Trivia Night
When: Motzei Shabbos, Dec. 7 @ 8 pm
Who:  Modern Orthodox, Ages 25-32
Price: $20
What: Trivia Night
Where: Teaneck
Questions? 516-319-7252





Shabbos in Lawrence
When: Shabbos Nov. 22-23
Who: Ages 39-55
Where: Lawrence, NY
Price: $159
Reservations and info: Bsebrow@aol.com or 516-849-5863


Rooftop Singles
When: Thursday, Dec. 5
Who: Ages 25-32
Where: Life Fitness Club, Lawrence, NY
Price: $30 (prepay) $45 (at door)
RSVP : venmo@rooftopsingles


Meet in Motown
When: Friday-Sunday, Dec. 13-15
Who: Professionals in their 30s and 40s
Where: Metro Detroit
Price: $250
 

OP-Ed


by Mindy Eisenman, MSW

Reprinted from 
The Jewish Press

Many parents wish their children could date "the way we dated." However, it is 2019, and we need to work the best we can within the present system.
Several weeks ago, The Jewish Press published an op-ed titled, "Stop Asking For Pictures Of My Daughter." While I admire the author's desire to ban photos from "shidduch resumes," dating life is complex, and wishful thinking that shidduch photos can be done away with does little to address contemporary realities.
Certainly, it's everyone's right not to send a photo. And, yes, some people don't want to see a picture. But let's face facts. Our young adults have the technological capacity to find photos (and more) with a click of their keyboard, or phone.
Dating suggestions now come from far and wide; they aren't limited to our own social spheres or circles. The vast majority of those dating nowadays quickly "google" a prospective shidduch or research his or her social media history. Do you want that long-buried, unflattering photo to be the first one viewed by a perspective date? Should your child's selfie from a high school Shabbaton make the first impression?
You now have a choice. You can withhold a great picture and hope your child never posted an unflattering photo anytime anywhere, or you could send a picture that you and your child like - one of your own choosing.
Parents of daughters may complain that the expectation to send a picture is hurtful, and we can all agree that a single photograph is a poor barometer of future marital happiness. However, these same parents watch their sons scour photos before accepting dates and can't convince them to act otherwise. Let's also please keep in mind that many girls/women also decline boys/men because of looks and photos too. It's happening on both ends.
While this reality may be disappointing to us parents, we need to recognize there are many layers, sensitivities, and complexities in the dating world today. From digital communication (texting, WhatsApp, social media posts) to myriad dating apps, life simply isn't the same. We raised the millennial generation differently.
It therefore is difficult to speak about the "picture" issue in a vacuum. No one formula suits all. At YUConnects, where I work, we work hard to instill in our members proper values in searching for a mate. We train our matchmakers to be sensitive to this generation's specific dating preferences. And we often create multiple portals of entry for singles today, including comfortable social events and opportunities for people to meet face to face.
After all, everyone agrees that a warm smile and twinkling eye is more flattering than any photo. May Hashem bless everyone with the ability to find a happy match.

Shiur Spotlight 
of the Month

Ahavas Yisrael: 
Best Practices in Dating
by Rabbi Ahron Ciment 
and Dr. Efrat Sobolofsky
  CLICK HERE 
to listen  on YUTorah!

Click Here to listen to more Shiurim on the YUTorah/YUConnects page
and other dating resources !

Help Us Make More Matches!
 

Have friends who are joining YUConnects?

Do YOU want help in maximizing your membership?

Check out these 
Refer to our  "Accepting A Match" tutorial for further help!
Special thanks to the 
YUConnects 
Advisory Board,
who offer  continuous guidance and support.
Click Here to view our Board.
YUConnects Staff

Dr. Efrat Sobolofsky, 
Director-  esobolof@yu.edu

Mindy Eisenman, Staff Connector-  meisenma@yu.edu

Marjorie Glatt, 
Special Projects Coordinator- mglatt@yu.edu

Rachel Novick,
Administrator- rachel.novick@yu.edu

Naomi Landsman, 
Bergen County Regional Connector-
mnlands@aol.com

Malky Galler, 
Long Island Regional Connector-  M alky.galler@yu.edu

Karen Raskas,
Social Work Intern- karenraskas@gmail.cm


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