Greetings!
One of the ironies of modern life is that many couples today are living together almost like strangers. The truth is, most couples have never been taught how to sustain love & intimacy in relationships. Add lingering wounds from past relationships to the mixture and the need for healing has never been so great.
Becoming close to another person is one of the most rewarding experiences in the human experience. It can be a foundation of emotional security and a bridge to self-expansion. If the relationship is a romantic one and the essence of deep friendship as well as lasting love are present, desire adds another sweet component. Although the term intimacy is often used in association with a committed partnership, anyone with a dear friend knows that romantic attraction is not essential for any two people to create a true bond. Intimacy is what we share with another human being who truly "gets” us.
It is only in recent decades we have recognized how important it is for infants to be held and touched. We know they cannot develop normally unless they experience physical and emotional connection with another human being on a regular basis. What we don't realize is that the need for connection is always there, throughout our lives. And in its absence, emotional and physical symptoms often develop. A lack of intimacy in one's life can lead to depression, addiction, anxiety and physical illness.
From my work with many couples over the years, I realize that a lot of what goes wrong in a relationship stems from a lack of understanding of the other person and the damaging tendency to see each other through a 'distorted lens' due to un-resolved issues from previous relationships. Recently, I worked with a male client whose anger from the relationship with his ex wife and children was affecting his current relationship with his partner.
He was tense all the time and holding a lot of resentment from the past. I healed a couple of core issues related to his previous wife and ever since, he has been much more relaxed and available in his relationship with his current life partner which makes them both happy and able to go deeper together.
What does intimacy mean to you? For my clients it’s about being on the same wavelength and the ability to really “get” each other. Being goofy or deep, being able to talk about anything and everything. The ability to experience intimacy by cuddling or giving each other a massage without it needing to lead to sex.
We have become a disposable society and often when the going gets tough, one or both partners want to bail. Supporting each other through the rough times and challenges and getting to the other side also helps build trust and deepen intimacy.
Are you ready to experience a deeper more profound connection with those you love?
Would you like to develop a deeper connection with yourself and your Higher Power, God, whatever you believe connects all living things? The Pechet Healing Technique will help you achieve a deeper, more loving connection with yourself, your partner, and your family members as I heal any wounds from your past.
Happy Valentine's Day.
Love,
Ellie
