Preparing for an emotional "vent": You may get to a point where you are feeling highly stressed and not sure what to do next or feel as though you have had enough. If you need that moment to "vent" or "freak out", then take it but be safe and be mindful. I know I have those moments when I feel overwhelmed during a major planning of some kind and I usually have at least one day of feeling that way. If you say something a little harsh to someone or maybe push "send" on that email that you wish you hadn't, do a follow up to let that person know that you were stressed and your message may not have come out the way you wanted it to. It happens to all of us....well, most of us at some point or another. Take ownership of that email or that phone call or outburst and it will be forgotten soon enough. Not taking ownership of it could have lasting negative effects. When your venting is over, refocus on the project at hand and move forward toward success.
Knowing your limits: Be careful not to take on too much. I have always lived by the motto that I would rather decline something if I know I cannot give 110% to it and only accept responsibility for things to which I can give 110%. There is nothing more frustrating as an organizer than having people commit to something that they later have to pull back on because they can't fulfill the role they have been asked to do; of course, extenuating circumstances aside. I have been approached over the years to be on many boards of organizations and to assume certain leadership roles in my community. I am always honored to be asked but I take that request very seriously and only choose things that do not interfere with my top priority (my family) ...or at least they are not inconvenienced for too long. If I am taking on a project that will last for quite some time, I am sure to let them know that I will not be as accessible for a time period and I ask for their support and involvement if possible.
Reevaluating for better preparation next time: You have just finished a week of preparing your day differently or have just finished a major project like moving or a report for your boss or college professor. Make either a mental note or a physical note somewhere of what went well, where you exceeded your expectations, what stumbling blocks you overcame and how you did it. Make a note of those around you who were assets and who were liabilities so you know for next time who is reliable and who is not. Make some observations of what could be recommended changes the next time you may be required to accomplish this same task (report, project, assignment). Pulling out these notes could help you be even better prepared next time.
One great example of doing this in my life has been when we prepare to relocate. My family and I have accomplished this momentous task several times over the last 25 years and we have perfected the process even more each time and our stress level is reduced each time due to keeping notes and documenting the process so it is more streamlined with each and every move. Whether working with a partner or by yourself, those notes can be invaluable.
So in closing, I ask you to consider the information from the past two newsletters when planning certain things in life. This information can help you in reducing stress and being able to enjoy things more every day. Now don't get me wrong, there is a place for being spontaneous as well, but that's a whole other newsletter. Enjoy!!!!
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Stay well.
