The Power of Words
"I recently read an article that made me think. When I first heard people saying 'Black Lives Matter," I, too, wanted to reply with 'All Lives Matter.' I also believe that 'Blue Lives Matter,' and, even more importantly,
all life matters
.
However, replying in such a way, the article notes, is a way of saying that the person's suffering is insignificant. For example, if I met a friend who said, 'I am worried. I am having cancer surgery next week,' I wouldn't reply with, 'Oh, lots of people I know have had cancer. Most of them recovered; some didn't and they died.' I certainly wouldn't be much of a sister or brother or even a friend to this person.
If a friend called and said, 'My mother passed away,' I wouldn't reply with, 'I know what you're going through. My mother died 20 years ago. Sometimes it seems like yesterday, and sometimes it seems like 20 years ago. You'll get used to it.'
When a whole group of people say, 'Black Lives Matter,' it's up to me to do and say what I would say to either of the friends mentioned in the examples: 'I am so sorry. What can I do to help?'"
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Sister Nancy Celaschi