Skype, Zoom, Google Chat, Facetime…who knew there were so many ways to communicate? I’ve never done so much video conferencing. My previous method of communication was to either meet at an office or speak on the phone. With all of us working from home and video conferencing we’re suddenly in the homes of people we never expected to be. It’s very personal. I’ve seen the art on people’s walls, the books they’re reading, what they’re having for dinner, and met their families and pets. People I’ve known in a professional or communal context are unexpectedly inviting me into their homes for the first time. This pandemic has closed us off in some ways and opened us up in others. We may be in isolation, but we’ve never been so connected.
With these new connections comes a new compassion. Under normal circumstances it would be unprofessional to hear a dog barking in the background of a business meeting. Now, it elicits sympathy for the person trying to get the job done in less than ideal circumstances. We’re seeing the human, vulnerable sides of colleagues. Until recently when we asked an acquaintance, “How are you?” the question was perfunctory. We expected to hear a few details about their lives, but nothing emotional. Now, the question is asked sincerely.
With these new connections also comes new displays of respect for others. The effort people make to appear professional even though they’re working at their kitchen table while teaching their children math is commendable. When people show up to our Zoom minyan early in the morning dressed and groomed just like they would if we were gathering in the sanctuary, they are showing honor to God and their fellow congregants. It takes discipline and effort to do that when we’re all feeling anxious, tired, or cranky because of the pandemic.
Some of my fellow clergy have been asking if this pandemic is a turning point for humanity. I’m not sure about that, but I will say it’s my hope that the openness, compassion and respect continue after the dangers posed by COVID-19 have been managed. I suppose that’s up to each of us. For the time being I’m grateful to experience all the goodness that we are bestowing upon one another.
