Three months ago I found out my husband had a long term affair with a young woman who was a friend of the family. The feelings of hurt, anger, and betrayal are unlike anything I have ever known or can describe. Being with women who have suffered the same kind of devastation and hearing the lessons in the Conquer Series has done more for me than anything else. I know that these women do not judge me, they are understanding. They listen, offer encouragement, and sometimes advice based on their own experiences. When I think what I’m feeling or doing or saying sounds crazy, I hear many voices saying, “Yes, we’ve been there too. You’re not crazy!”
I remember watching a video featuring Dr. Weiss about what women go through when they find out about that the man they love has betrayed them in such a personal way and it was like he was reading my thoughts and feelings. Hearing the words of wisdom from someone who has spent years counseling men and women suffering from sexual sin has been such a source of comfort and given me strength and encouragement. We do not have to face this fight alone and in fact are commanded in the Bible to find strength together with our brothers and sisters in Christ.
The decision to stay with my husband and repair our marriage was surprisingly easy, though I never believed I would choose to stay if I was ever in this situation. Most people in this world who have never faced these circumstances believe that staying in a marriage where this kind of betrayal has occurred is the wrong answer but I know God is the champion of strong marriages and He is behind me, strengthening me every day, giving me the courage to continue in this fight. I know the war is already won through the blood of Jesus Christ, but it’s a daily struggle to fight this battle for my heart and my marriage. Satan will not win.
Sara B., Maryland
