I. Relationship Unconscious Podcast Series and Group Seminar Recordings
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II. Group Seminar Meetings on Saturday, August 3, 2019 *
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The Men's Group Seminar:
Hard, Bitter Reality and Why It Is Good For You
10:15 to 11:30 AM
While there are literally hundreds of perspectives on the notion of wisdom from any number of academic, philosophical, and religious traditions, I have always been fascinated by Freud's conceptualization of
reality
as the greatest source of knowledge about the self, about others, and about the world. In fact, much of Freud's thinking regarding the origins of psychological and emotional distress centered on an inability to recognize and tolerate reality, things as they are and not what we wish them to be. For Freud the daydream, for example, suggested the mind's chronic grappling, an ongoing internal battle, between what is desired or fantasized vs. what is. In my own psychotherapy practice, I have realized over the years that many patients continue to struggle, even well into midlife and beyond, with identifying and adapting to realistic conditions and circumstances, as well as to the true nature of those with whom they are in relationship.
In the next meeting of the Men’s Group Seminar on Saturday, August 3, 2019 (10:15 to 11:30 AM)
, we will explore the dynamic tension all of us face in coming to terms with reality, and discuss the unique realizations made once the hardness and bitterness of reality settle in and do their work.
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The Relationship Group Seminar:
The Boundary Misconception
11:45 AM to 1:00 PM
The ability to form and maintain boundaries is widely viewed as a fundamental capacity and a major component of psychological and emotional health. Yet, in my opinion, the notion of boundaries is too commonly discussed within the realm of
interpersonal
phenomena in which one individual is, or is not, able to set a boundary with another. When a psychotherapy patient shares with me his or her difficulty with boundaries, for example, the interpersonal quality of the tension that is discussed frequently, and unfortunately, ends up elevating the strength and power of the other even more. This has the paradoxical effect of making it harder for the patient to do anything differently in the context of relating to the person of whom he or she speaks. I have gradually come to realize that the core element of boundaries has more to do with it being an
intrapersonal
process of discovery in which one locates what is, and what is not, personally preferable and tolerable. I am reminded of the film "Lost in Translation" in which Bill Murray's character ("Bob Harris") says to Scarlett Johansson's character ("Charlotte") something like,
The more you know what you want, the less people will upset you.
In the next meeting of the Relationship Group Seminar on Saturday, August 3, 2019 (11:45 AM to 1:00 PM),
we will explore a perspective on boundary formation that emphasizes it being a mechanism of self-discovery and delineation rather than merely a social act.
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The Dynamic Psychotherapy Process Group
1:15 to 2:30 PM
This therapy group utilizes the emerging dynamics among group members, and between the group members and facilitator, as a basis from which to examine one's characteristic ways of thinking, feeling, and relating to others.
Our next group session will be on Saturday, August 3, 2019 (1:15 to 2:30 PM) at the Laguna Hills office location.
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he Dynamic Psychotherapy Process Group is a therapeutic experience and entry occurs only after a pre-group screening interview.
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* If you would like to attend the Men's Group Seminar and/or the Relationship Group Seminar on August 3, 2019, please RSVP to me at 949-338-4388 or
jt@jamestobinphd.com
. There is a limit of 14 attendees for each group and registrants will be accommodated on a first-come/first-serve basis. The fee is $25.00 (payable via cash or check at the time of the group meeting).
Location:
The Water Garden Business Center
23421 South Pointe Drive, Suite 130
Laguna Hills, CA, 92653
Please note that the Men's Group Seminar and the Relationship Group Seminar are psychoeducational in nature, not therapeutic, and do not constitute psychotherapy or counseling.
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