Thomas Curran, a social psychologist from the UK, offers a sobering TED Talk on perfectionism. His research indicates that, among young people, perfectionism is rising to epidemic levels. In his talk, Curran draws attention to the cultural myth that natural human limitations are unacceptable weaknesses.
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IV. Virtual Seminars on Saturday, September 5, 2020* |
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The Men's Group Seminar: The Difference Between Happiness and Fulfillment
What is it that makes people truly happy? Since Maslow's groundbreaking work on self-actualization, science has approached this question by attempting to understand the nature of self-fulfillment and its components. And with the emergence in recent years of positive psychology, attention has turned to unraveling the meaning of "happiness." These efforts highlight the need to clarify how we define and measure constructs such as happiness, fulfillment, and life satisfaction and ultimately determine their interrelationships. While there is some overlap in meaning across these terms, it also appears to be the case that each captures distinct elements of human contentment. In the next virtual meeting of the Men's Group Seminar on Saturday, September 5, 2020 (10:15 to 11:30 AM), we will focus on the intriguing relationship between happiness and fulfillment. Once assumed to be highly correlated, research now suggests that happiness and fulfillment likely tap unique and unrelated zones of experience, i.e., a person can be fulfilled but not happy, and vice versa.
To register for this upcoming seminar, please see the directions below.
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The Relationship Group Seminar: Overt and Covert Forms of Control in Relationships
Toxic forms of control represent a subgroup of manipulation tactics that are actually quite common in relationships. One person attempts to limit or constrict another's person freedom and independence through numerous means such as gaslighting, ambushing, and guilt-induction, among others. These tactics constitute overt forms of control that are usually intentional, are generally employed by individuals with narcissistic qualities, and paradoxically result in a de-valuing of the person targeted. That is, as these overt forms of control persist and begin to have their intended effect, the person seeking control no longer desires whom he or she has come to control. In contrast, covert forms of control involve much more subtle, unconsciously motivated, actions and attitudes that center on attracting the person who is desired and insuring they will not leave. Covert control is usually a tactic employed by codependent (as opposed to narcissistic) persons whose personal histories often involve significant assaults to one's self-esteem, leading to the ill-fated belief that to be loved simply for who one is will always be an impossibility. In the next virtual meeting of the Relationship Group Seminar on Saturday, September 5, 2020 (11:45 AM to 1:00 PM), we will identify and distinguish overt and covert forms of control in relationships and consider ways in which both the impulse to control, and to be controlled, may be overcome.
To register for this upcoming seminar, please see the directions below.
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The Dynamic Psychotherapy Process Group
This therapy group utilizes the emerging dynamics among group members, and between the group members and facilitator, as a basis from which to examine one's characteristic ways of thinking, feeling, and relating to others. Our next virtual group session will be held on Saturday, September 5, 2020 (1:15 to 2:30 PM). The Dynamic Psychotherapy Process Group is a therapeutic experience and entry occurs only after a pre-group screening interview.
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* Registration Directions: If you would like to attend the virtual meeting of the Men's Group Seminar and/or the Relationship Group Seminar on September 5, 2020, please RSVP to me at 949-338-4388 or [email protected] at your earliest convenience. The fee is $25.00 (payable before entering the virtual meeting) and informed consent for participation in this telehealth event must be completed prior to the seminars. Please note that the Men's Group Seminar and the Relationship Group Seminar are psychoeducational in nature, not therapeutic, and do not constitute psychotherapy or counseling.
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