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Living Differently is a newsletter of tips, ideas and information about grief, life and healing after loss.
Grieving, like living, involves all areas of life; emotional, cognitive, physical, spiritual, social, relational, nature and universal. We delve into all these areas plus offer messages from the other side to help you in your journey.
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Note From Chris
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Forgiveness, It's Not Easy, but...
September, being the beginning of a new fall season (here in the US), I could talk about change and shifts in routines and school and turning our focus indoors. I could, but we won't!
A couple weeks ago I was given this month's newsletter topic. In our circle, as SADO was sharing information with us, they stated, "this information is for Christine's newsletter." Then again, last weekend at the AREI Symposium in Scottsdale, Arizona where we introduced them in a workshop, SADO shared their wisdom to the attendees, they further stated more information about this subject. (it sure doesn't take a 2x4 to my head for me to get it!)
So, our topic was selected and much information was shared to include in this newsletter. I trust all of them to know what is needed and necessary right now.
Although we have discussed forgiveness previously, I am happy to share it with you as my friends have SO much to say*!
I hope it is thought-provoking and perhaps makes you think and feel a little differently.
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* They probably have a LOT to say about forgiveness because they know A Course in Miracles says that our sole purpose here is to know forgiveness.
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The following is from my ongoing messages/lessons/guidance shared by and received from the non-physical perspective ...my Guides, aka. Maxx
This message holds a mini-lesson for all of us...
(usually I hear a phrase, a subject or they make a comment and then they explain their lesson...)
What IS Forgiveness?
For-give-ness. Break it down so that it is a little bit more understandable. Now, it is not the action you take when you maintain anger, when you are not choosing for, with and about acceptance. When you realize that forgiveness is a process of internal resolve of you, you will realize the benefits. Now forgiveness is not a weakness. Forgiveness is not a forbearance of what has occurred or what is occurring or what will continue to be. Forgiveness is looking at the all-encompassing, the eternal and the overall. And when one is able to look at the grand view of what stands in front of you, acceptance will follow if that heart is opened enough to picture beyond one's physical being. Now moving beyond what is right in front of one's nose, is the beginning of the forgiveness process. It is not just the process that started in your brain; in your left, logical and ego brain. It is something that starts in your heart where you know that forgiveness is more than the logical process. Benefits, rewards and gifts are gained when you move yourself beyond that beginning ego thought and move to the possibility that is expanded, what will expand, can be and is beyond one's imagination. It incorporates all of one's aim as that is heart incorporation and heart manipulation. Open your heart to forgive opens your heart to the heart's expansion of love. Love can only grow in a place that has been modified and fertilized for the continuation of expansion. Expand you by forgiving and see a more greater picture, not only of you and what is in front of you but what you see as a greater possibility of expanding love in, around and within you.
Forgiveness is beyond what you imagine it to be. Forgiveness is not a letting go of who you are or what you believe or what you have been taught. It is a larger encompassing of more than what you have imagined. You can ask what forgiveness is but ask what love is. And when you determine what love is you will see that it is built on forgiveness. Start forgiving and you will see how your love grows. You will see how you are built. You will see how you are. It is a great foundation; it is the greatest foundation to build your Self on forgiveness that will grow the you in the love that IS you.
Ask yourself what you want in your life and expand your thinking from your ego to your heart. You will discover an expansive view of love, forgiveness and beingness all rolled into an expanded version of you who has discovered the love in you and allowed it to grow with steps of acceptance and forgiveness to expand and become you.
I said we are talking about forgiveness in the newsletter. Can you say something about forgiveness?
Well, it's the only thing there is. That is the means of how you move through this existence - your existence to come to understand and learn your lessons. Sure, there are other avenues - there are other big words you can use that will get you there but it is through forgiveness that you understand love and love is what you take back within who you are and it becomes who you are when you are here. So, learning forgiveness is learning love and learning your lessons that you came there for. That is the great umbrella. You want to know what love is? Forgive. That, will make you see all the grand
what is.
Your spirit helpers are with you all the time. They want to help you and they have a way of letting you know in a way you will understand...
Your job is to learn to trust them! You can have the comfort of your spirit guides and loved ones to ease the burdens of your physical life. I encourage you to embrace your connections.
Do you have questions? Please let me know..
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Your Forgiveness, Your Journey
We hear so many words in the grief journey that describe the processes of grieving. And it's pretty overwhelming to think in terms of "I don't know what all of them mean" and "I don't know if I can learn all of them" and then, "How can I DO all of them?"
Of course, it is paralyzing when you think of it that way, in one large chunk of undoneness.
No one actually learns (and maintains the learning) by cramming. And why add that much more stress to your already often unbalanced existence?
The Processes of Healing
Hope, faith, belief, awareness, noticing, trust, temperance, patience, acceptance, attention, persistence, opening your heart, self-care, meditation, mindfulness, gratitude, presence, awakening, forgiving ...
It's important to recognize these individual processes and then to accumulate tools that will assist with moving you through them.
But as Maxx said:
"Focus your here and now IN you, not around you" which reminds us first, to be aware of how we are moving our self through these processes.
Experiment with a variety of tools to understand what will help you grow: journaling, walking in nature, (the woods, the ocean, bodies of water, your back yard) art, music, books, use colors, angels, crystals, Reiki, energy healing, oracle cards, therapy, support groups. As you are gaining insight, listen to your internal voice, step into those thoughts and stay in the conversation you are having with yourself about what you are experiencing.
This is and will be your movement through your processing.
Your processing is how you open your heart to personalize your conversations with your own life. (through your higher self)
Are We There Yet?
We often tend to internally criticize our self for not being in that magical awakened place. (you know, when I get "there.") But it's important to remember you are in transition. You are in the process of becoming. There is so much potential in becoming, in evolving. You may not be fully aware nor fully free at this point in your journey but you do have free will in your words, actions, and thoughts to transition in your growing.
Using these other processes, you are on a course of awakening necessary to heal yourself.
The Forgiveness Connection
It is important to relax (accept) and know (trust) that you have support to move through your transitions of your life.
And how do you accomplish this? By forgiving yourself.
Forgive yourself for not knowing how, why, when, how much and all the other unanswerable questions your ego brain asks. And, forgive yourself for not remembering your life plans from your spirit brain. (why you came here, what lessons did you plan, why did you chart the blueprint of your life?)
Becoming open to your fear of these unknowns, allows you to love yourself enough to forgive you for not knowing what you don't know. Loving yourself opens your heart to more awareness of you, your living, our expansion, your insights, your connectedness and your relationship to your consciousness and ultimately to the nature of all reality.
As you become more open (open-minded) it invites acceptance as well as forgiveness into your life.
Forgiveness is our Reason for Being
Why is it that we have such a difficult time with forgiveness? We have difficulty with others' transgressions, life problems, illnesses, diseases, relationships and other's character defects. The more we focus on them the more prevalent they seem and the worse we feel.
The decision to forgive is not an ego brain function but an action of the spirit brain because the ego cannot perceive love. It is through the spirit brain that we make choices out of love. (Remember: ego=fear, spirit=love)
Forgiveness is the bedrock for all the previously mentioned processes. Forgiveness is the door "in" to the self. When you forgive yourself and others, you can move in to your self which will enable you to move toward and through all these processes.
So, Ms. Holland states that what is not forgiven maintains free rent space in your mind. Yes, it maintains your stress but stating the positives, just a few of the gifts of forgiveness is relief, more love and loving in your heart and the ability to move through all the other processes of grief.
A Course in Miracles says that
"Forgiveness is why we're here." When we rely on spirit (our spirit brain) rather than our ego (our ego brain) we will be able to draw closer to each other and to all who exist around us. And, it is through seeing the love in the oneness of us all that will allow us to heal.
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Help With Forgiveness: Ask Archangel Zadkiel
Asking for the assistance of angels is a wonderful step in your process of remembering your spiritual Self. You don't even have to believe in them because spirituality is not about beliefs but about experiences.
I invite you to open your heart to new experiences with them. A few minutes a day meditation practice tuning in with your breath and asking for their help just could bring you magic and miracles and gifts!
Archangel Zadkiel is an angel of mercy and forgiveness. His name means "righteousness of God" and he helps you release any unforgiveness you hold against yourself or others. He can also help you feel comfort in your darkest hours, improve your memory, bring you gentleness in your daily moments and brings grace and freedom into your life.
Archangel Zadkiel is connected to the violet flame so he helps you with cellular memory to help you deepen your connection with the divine.
Forgiveness in not easy, but perhaps by asking for the help of Zadkiel he will help you raise your vibration to help you remember the light that you are as a spiritual being.
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Focus To Attract What You Want
We are electro-magnetic beings. We attract what we put out to our universe. We don't need to question, we don't need micro-manage our energy field. It will bring to you what you put out there. (IE: you know how some people have one life problem after another or one illness or catastrophe after another? This is energy in action.)
Focus you and your energy on positive and on what you WANT not what you DON'T want. (i.e.:
"I always get the flu" or
"I'll never get over this or that," or "What more can happen to me?" or
"I have such bad luck!")
Don't hold yourself back. Elevate your life by elevating your emotions.
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Healing the Broken Hearts Love, SADO
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Introduction to SADO
In 2015 three bereaved moms and a clinical counselor began to channel a higher order group of beings self-named SADO. This group, Sons and Daughters of the One, answered the call of this group to provide, as they say, "helpful information and love to heal the grieving heart". The words SADO has channeled to us have been positive, helpful, life changing and truly healing. Many of their messages are available on
www.clearingyoursoul.com (we are updating their messages on this site as transcriptions are completed)
They have asked us to share their truth
with those who read this newsletter, as well as those who visit the Clearing Your Soul website.
Our Development Circle presented a workshop at the AREI Symposium in Scottsdale, Arizona last weekend. SADO shared on many topics directly to the attendees of the workshop. Because they mentioned forgiveness in our circle privately and at this workshop, we will offer here the words they shared about forgiveness.
A Little Bit of Information About Forgiveness
We wish to give you information about the passing of your loved ones. They did not feel it. Their soul was "popped" from their body before the body as you would say, died. Do not be concerned about the moment of death. Know that they were met and greeted by loving beings. Most of you who are attending this meeting are aware of this but it is hard to always to remember. We ask that you do so. We also wish to give you a little bit of information about forgiveness. There are several of you here today that have a difficulty with forgiveness in your hearts. This is negative. It does not allow you to live in the loving. Forgiveness is the greatest gift. You have been given the ability for even greater than love. Forgiving those in your life that you feel have been harmful to you, forgiving yourself is the most difficult. When you forgive others you are forgiving yourself and when you forgive yourself you are forgiving others as you are all one. There is no definition between you. We don't see that definition as you do. We see our bodies that are joined because we see the energy. We see the energy, we see the loving, we see the colors, we also see the unforgiveness that you have for yourself. Even if you believe that the unforgiveness is too hard someone else. It is really a reflection of the self. That is hard and it is one of the lessons that you have the opportunity to learn on this planet - the planet of free will. You are all very brave or very crazy. (Hahaha) It is a difficult place to be. We watch the struggle. We wish for you to remember that the struggle bringing about negative thoughts and beliefs causes many of the mental health problems that this one has spent a lifetime working with. It is what you are thinking that creates the issue. It is not the issue and this one says there are many heads shaking, "No, SADO you are wrong, it is the issue and the experience." We disagree with that and we know that your scientists are eventually going to be able to show the brain chemistry and how it works in the changes with the experiences with neutral thoughts as opposed to experiences with negative thoughts. We are not talking about sadness here. We are talking about unforgiveness. We are talking about negativity of others in your life. We are talking about as this one would say, the woulda, shoulda, coulda. This is much information. We will bring up one more topic and that is the topic of trust. Trust and forgiveness is in what we would call the same basket. Trust for self, trust as this one would say - your gut. It will feel right when it is right as long as it does not come through the filter of the ego brain. That is a lot of work to separate the ego brain from the spiritual one. That could be another workshop and maybe it will. And it is enough.
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Physical vs. Spirit World
I posted this meme on our Facebook page on Monday, September 17, 2018. It is a quote by physical medium Scott Milligan discussing this spiritual truth. I was asked if this could be further discussed in our newsletter. Of course we can and thank you so much for asking Diane!
When we experience the death of a loved one, we grieve, we mourn and we miss them because they shed their earth suit and we miss that physical body that we knew and loved. That earth suit, that physical body leaves us. We feel the finality of their "goneness." We feel that they have left us because we maintain a belief that they
are gone since we can no longer see, hear, smell and touch that personality that is attached to the physical body we sensed through our ego brain. We not only feel the separation (from them) but we feel the separateness of our humanness by retaining a sense of individuality due to living in a body and interacting with other people who are separate from us. (how we interpret our earth existence) But, when we return to the infinite, we return to an all-encompassing One. And because we are all part of that One, we don't perceive ourselves (when in spirit) as separate from one another but that of uniting, combining and unifying.
Therefore, as humans, in our earth suits, our perception is that of our separate human loved ones dying and separating FROM us (going away, leaving us) while as spirit, we perceive all of us as one and transitioning, reunifying into our whole once again, joining the One.
We resist this truth of unity because it is difficult to conceptualize. But, when we think about it, our ego brain belief in separateness creates many of the problems of humanity.
FYI: We are creating an on-line Healing From Loss course, ran a pilot course in July and we will be releasing information about it soon...
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and this month's final thought...
Yes, an elephant never forgets but I don't know if there are any studies on how elephants are affected by the lack of forgiveness. But we do know that unresolved conflict can go deeper than we imagine for the human body and that forgiveness has a powerful effect on one's health and well-being. So, while an elephant may be a great animal totem (I know this to be true) they may not be the greatest role model for forgiveness!
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Chris Mulligan is an intuitive grief guide, teacher and author of Afterlife Agreements: A Gift From Beyond who is passionate about inspiring and guiding others to choose to live differently after grief, to change their pain to hope and their suffering to living on. Her passion is fueled by her own transformation when her youngest son, Zac died in 2000 and she found herself enduring a shattered world she did not expect to inhabit. Receiving guidance through signs and communication from her son and other spirits, her life path shifted from living in grief to living on. She discovered her truth when she chose to open her heart and live life differently. From that place, she fearlessly created an abundant life full of gifts, gratitude and grace. A MS in Clinical Child, Youth, and Family Work, 25 years of Adoption Social Work, hospice volunteering, facilitating grief support groups and being her parents' end of life and transitional caregiver have taught her about pain and peace. She frequently speaks on panels and workshops for the bereaved and those working with the bereaved. She loves spending time with her husband and family of two dogs, Nina and Sam, four children and four grandchildren. She has been receiving images and messages from those on the other side for over 17 years and is currently writing a book incorporating their teachings. Go to http://www.Afterlifebooks.com to learn more.
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