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"Play gives a child a chance to practice what they are learning." -Fred Rogers
September 7, 2018    
Thirty-eighth Edition
Greetings!

A big part of bonding with your child is having fun. You must have fun every single day, 6 days out of 7 (one day to recuperate and plan for the week ahead), for healing to happen.

Children with attachment disorder don't see the love you have for them. They push your buttons to drive you crazy and push love away, and you end up being a parents who doesn't have fun anymore with your kids.

When you get down to the business of playing and your child sees the sparkle in your eyes, your smile, hears your laughter, and enjoys being with you - Boom! Connection happens.

Have fun, smile, and let loose today.

Enjoy!

With love,
Bruce Perry's 6 R Activities for Healing the Brain

Repetitive - same movements over and over
Relational - must be played with a parent
Rhythmic - steady beat or rhythm
Respectful - to people and setting
Rewarding - fun for everyone playing
Relevant - to age group and setting

When activities are played using the 6 Rs it helps build your child's brain, as well as creating and strengthening your parent-child bond. When your child sees you as someone fun and loving they will have more motivation to get 'unstuck' and will begin wanting to spend time with you!

The full Bruce Perry program is doing 6R activities 5 - 6 times a day, for 7 - 10 minutes each time. That can be overwhelming for a lot of families, so start out small. Once or twice a day is great!

How to plan during the day:

Set alarm for different times each day for activities. When your alarm rings it's play time! Whether they're stuck in the middle of a chore or brain shifter just scoop them up for a few minutes of Fun Mom/Dad Time.

Take a day to pick out your activities for the week. Write them in a planner or on your phone with a reminder. Or go ahead and be crazy - plan the whole month! Check out the ideas listed below and add your family's favourite activities to your list. The calendar page can be downloaded and used for this month or next month or every month - whatever makes your life as a therapeutic parent a little bit easier!
6R Activity Ideas
Action songs
Ping pong
Soccer
Basketball
Catch naming colours
foods
desserts
countries
drinks
furniture
books
Funny face contest
Drumming
Dancing
Dancing with hats or scarves
Marching
Skipping
Hopping
Crawling
Ittsy Bittsy Spider
Jack and Jill
Frisbee
Freeze dance
Hula hoop
Jump rope
Hopscotch
Click the calendar image to view/download the PDF
Being Canadian, I of course had to add these in here. You're welcome, Southerners. This can be a fun thing to play with together. Also goop, gak, and play dough.
3 PlaySnow Recipes

1) Pour one cup of baking soda in a bowl and add in shaving cream slowly until you get the snow consistency that you like.
This snow recipe stays cool to the touch and has a power-like feel when you touch it. When it is really cold outside, the snow will have a more powder like real. This is my favorite snow recipe.

2) This is another great snow making recipe. Mix 2 1/2 cups of baking soda with 1/2 cup of white conditioner. This snow will also feel cool to the touch but has less of a power feel. It is feels more like a wet snow.

3) Pour one cup of cornstarch into a bowl and mix in shaving cream slowly until you get the snow consistency that you like.  This snow feels sort of like powdery crumbs. It is not cool to the touch. It is not as white as the baking soda snow.

If Your Traumatized Child Were A Dog…

Dear Parents,

I read this today on the I Heart Dogs blog:

"If you believe you aren’t your dog’s favorite person, but you would like to be, there are some things you can do to improve your bond with them. The best thing to do is spend at least 30 minutes of focused, one-on-one time with your dog every day. This time should be spent doing something active such as playing fetch or tug, having a training session, or trying a new sport such as agility or flyball where you and your dog can work together as a team."

Now apply that to your attachment challenged, traumatized child. Go play.

Love matters, Ce | from www.attachplace.com
"For I know the plans I have for you", declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you HOPE and a FUTURE."  Jeremiah 29:11