How life turns out-or how it is going for anyone-is based on what decisions one has made, to one's betterment or detriment.
When a soul is born into this physical earthly dimension, with but few exceptions, he or she incarnates with a false sense of identity-the personal ego. As they grow to adulthood, the limited sense of awareness of other personal egos surrounding them reinforces the illusion that they are but personal ego identities.
From schoolyard adolescence to the adult environments of human life in this earthly dimension, the personal ego identity is accepted as being the decision maker in one's life. The personal ego becomes involved in a personal learning process based on what one's parents believe and then expands into the beliefs of educators, politicians, scientists, and, for the majority, religions. The personal ego builds what it knows about life and how to live it based on a composite from all these sources of what is and what is not.
Eventually, whether in this physical lifetime or another, we become aware of the various states of our beingness; and through the Grace of God's Presence, we integrate all levels into a harmonious working Wholeness of Beingness.
When it comes to health and healing, indeed Silence is Golden, for it is the Sacred Silence of Universal God-Presence working to maintain or restore the health of one's body.
Absolute Oneness is the Absolute Relationship. In such Oneness there is no isolation or apartness. Identity is not so concerned about being loved as it is with loving.