November 26, 2018
Group Meetings
on Saturday, December 1, 2018
The Relationship Group: Insecurity: A Multidimensional Concept *
11:45 AM to 1:00 PM

The notion that insecurity often sabotages a romantic relationship is not a new idea. Many people have witnessed their own or their partner's insecurity infiltrate and destroy an established or emerging bond. Yet what is not so commonly discussed are the different types of insecurity that manifest, each with their own distinct origin and activating circumstances.  In the next meeting of the Relationship Group on Saturday, December 1, 2018 (11:45 AM to 1:00 PM) , we will review the diverse pathways of insecurity and how they impact romantic love. We will pay close attention to the differences between situational and personality-based forms of insecurity, and to the often contradictory motivations for acting on our insecurities (i.e., sometimes the ultimate psychological goal is to aggress upon the person we desire or, conversely, to aggress upon ourselves in sabotage). Finally, we will consider the ways in which insecurity is an especially crucial factor in individuals with a narcissistic-borderline hybrid personality profile. Various readings we will consider address the signs of insecurity in romantic relationships , situational experiences of insecurity that are often "normal, " the multiple components of insecurity , and t he diverse causes of insecurity.
The Men's Group: Are Men Bad At Friendship? *
10:15 to 11:30 AM
A substantial body of scientific research indicates that men, as they age, are progressively at a greater risk for experiencing loneliness. By middle age, men generally rely on their partners for social networking and activity, and devote most of their free time outside of work to their children. Maintaining long-term friendships with friends, and establishing new friendships, do not seem to be crucial priorities for men despite their need for collegiality, mutual acceptance and support, and a sense of shared experience.  In the next meeting of the Men's Group on Saturday, December 1, 2018 (10:15 to 11:30 AM) , we will explore how and why men seem to lose friendships across the lifespan and falter in their attempts at finding new friends and stimulating new friendships. We will discuss perspectives on this issue including the view of diminishing male friendships as a "hidden crisis," a psychologist's observation that notions of male success often do not include an investment in friendship , and a Boston Globe writer's encounter with this topic when he turned 40.
The Dynamic Psychotherapy Process Group *
 1:15 to 2:30 PM
This therapy group utilizes the emerging dynamics among group members, and between the group members and facilitator, as a basis from which to examine one's characteristic ways of thinking, feeling, and relating to others.  Our next group session will be on Saturday, December 1, 2018 (1:15 to 2:30 PM) at the Laguna Hills office location.  
* If you would like to attend the Men's Group and/or the Relationship Group on December 1, 2018, please RSVP to me at 949-338-4388 or  [email protected] . There is a limit of 14 attendees for each group and registrants will be accommodated on a first-come/first-serve basis. The fee is $25.00 (payable via cash or check at the time of the group meeting).

Location:
The Water Garden Business Center
23421 South Pointe Drive, Suite 130
Laguna Hills, CA, 92653

Please note that the Men's Group and the Relationship Group are psychoeducational in nature, not therapeutic, and do not constitute psychotherapy or counseling. In contrast, the Dynamic Psychotherapy Process Group is a therapeutic experience and entry occurs only after a pre-group screening interview.
James Tobin, Ph.D., PSY 22074 | 949-338-4388 |   [email protected]