Worship with us in January!
Possibility
In our New Member Covenanting “5 Smooth Stones” ceremony, one of the stones new members receive is the Stone of Possibility- the reminder that we as humans and as a human group (aka UUCFM) are full of possibility. Revelation is not sealed up and finished; it is ongoing. So this month we explore what is possible, for ourselves and for our world. A Perspective of Possibility opens the mind and heart to what can be learned and where one or we are called to grow. This month you are invited to cultivate this perspective, grounded in our UU Living Tradition. ~ Rev. Allison Farnum
Community Sharing in January
The GRACE (Guatemalan Rural Adult and Childrens’ Education) Project began in 1997 and grew through collaborations between the Lee County School District’s Migrant Education Program, the Florida Coalition Against Human Trafficking (FCAHT), the Florida Migrant Interstate Program at Florida Gulf Coast University (FGCU), and our congregation's very own member Genelle G. Grant, Ed.D is the director.

At least 10% of the Hispanic population in Lee County are in farmworker or indigenous families, and speak an indigenous language first and Spanish for their second language. Some have only attended elementary school, some do not read or write in any language, and some are undocumented immigrants. Please be generous and remember our Community Sharing partner this month. Thank you!
The Humanist Forum
The Humanist Forum meets every Sunday at 9:15 am in Hobart Hall. All are welcome to attend. The topic this Sunday is Global Migration
 
Today, no countries have open borders. Every state in today’s global system has its own laws and policies about who is permitted to cross its borders, and how they will do so. Who determines whether someone is a refugee or a migrant? How have different countries, including the United States, reacted to migration? How effective are the international laws, policies and organizations that have evolved to assist and protect refugees and migrants? Join the discussion this Sunday morning at 9:15 am in Hobart Hall. All are welcome.
Sunday Social Hour
Sunday's Social Hour happens after the service every week. It is volunteer run- by the Women's Circle on the first Sunday, CUUPs on the second, Humanist Forum on the third, Men's Group on the fourth, and if there is a fifth Sunday, it is All Church.  Any donations of food, snacks or cash are welcome.
Youth Groups
If you have questions about our youth groups or Children's Religious Education program, please contact Jenn Blosser [email protected]. There are no youth group meetings this week due to the Longtable Discussion.
BURN , our High School Youth Group meets on Sundays at noon in Room 4. All youth, ages 14-18, are welcome!
IGNITE , our junior youth group for ages 10-13, meets weekly from 12-1 pm in Room 3. (or 7) Come join us for community, conversation, and finding your call to action!
S PARK, exclusively for children ages 5-9, Spark meets weekly from 12-1pm in Room 2 to explore Unitarian Universalism and learn more about our church and each other. 
Long Table Discussion on January 20th
The Board of Trustees cordially invites everyone to attend a Congregational Long Table to discuss whole church worship on January 20th at 12:15 pm in Miller Sanctuary. There will be no OWL Class this week so that youth may attend.

The Long Table Discussion format was developed as a forum to have difficult conversations where purposeful listening can take place and speaking space is shared. A Long Table is not the place to solve a problem, but rather a covenanted space to talk and listen.

Our Long Table will be professionally moderated by David Kelley, who specializes in organizational development, in church discussions as a moderator, specifically as they relate to conflict.

If you have a story to tell regarding UUCFM’s transition to whole church worship, please do attend!

Theresa Bahre, President-Elect and Mary Alice Pierce, VP Operations
Religious Education News
At the Intention Table this Sunday, all are invited to decorate plastic bottles and jars with messages of justice and love! These will be turned into noise makers which will be used during the MLK March on Monday, January 21st. Please bring in any supplies you might have for this project, including plastic bottles/jars or filling (rice, beans, pennies, etc). Noise makers will be filled  after  service in the Narthex during the long table discussion.

Jenn Blosser, Director of Religious Education
Music News
The UUCFM Choir rehearses most Wednesday nights from 6:45-8:15 pm, and on Sunday mornings from 9-10 am in the sanctuary. It's free and there are no auditions. Come join us in singing!

The UUCFM Band rehearses most Wednesday nights from 6:00-6:45 pm, and on Sunday mornings from 9-10 am in the Sanctuary. If you would like to play your instrument during a Sunday service, please email me to coordinate the details.
Come join us in making music together!

Suellen Kipp, Director of Music
Membership
If you or a friend has been thinking about joining our faith community, you are cordially invited to join us at the Sunday Service on the 27 th . Pick-up a Membership Enrollment Kit at our “Welcome Tables” in the Narthex and Hobart Hall on Sunday, or come by the Office and grab a Kit. (Or I can email you an Enrollment Kit  [email protected] .) Complete the forms in the kit and drop in the mail to us before the 27 th  or bring the completed forms with you that Sunday morning. It’s that simple! Wherever you are on your journey, we bid you Welcome!

Meet Our New Members!

KATHERINE (KATHY) FORD,
Kartherine was born in Plattsburgh, New York and attended SUNY Brockport, Purdue, and University of Vermont for education and administration. She married Deep
Ford over 40 years ago. They have 2 adult children and 4 grandchildren. Kathy has worked as a teacher, counselor, and administrator in many locations since they have lived in 9 countries. She has been a UU over 20 years and enjoys discussing travel, culture, movies and books. Kathy lives part time in Switzerland with her
husband.

JOHN (DEEP) FORD,
John joined us on December 21, 2017 with Kathy. He was born in Guyana, SA, and
attended SUNY Brockport and Purdue for Agricultural Economics. He has worked as a University Professor and now an Economist with the UN Food and Agricultural Organization, which takes him throughout the world. He enjoys discussing sports, travel and international relations. He treasures his son with 2 granddaughters and his daughter with 2 grandsons. He and Kathy share being UUs for over 20 years and Deep is now working in Switzerland.
Special Events at UUCFM
MLK March
Every year members of UUCFM participate in the MLK March downtown. The march starts at 11am on Monday, January 21st. We are arranging rides starting at 9 am to shuttle UUCFM marchers from the Uncommon Friends statue in Centennial Park to the Dunbar Community Center. Hope to see you all there!

Be sure to wear your UUCFM green T-shirt in the MLK March!

There is still time to get your UUCFM t-shirt before the Martin Luther King March. It is always impressive to be able to identify the significant number of our members when we walk together in support of the ideals that Dr. King preached. There are a limited number left so be sure to get yours at the Social Justice/Outreach Table in Hobart Hall after church on Sunday the 13th or the 20th. The cost is $15.00.
Casino Night
UUCFM will be having a fundraising Casino Night on Saturday, January 26th from 7:00-9:30 PM in Hobart Hall. Casino night will feature Roulette, Black Jack, Poker, and a Wheel of Fortune. $25 ticket includes $3,000 in chips, and light refreshments. There will be a cash bar. Our Scout Troop is giving their time to present this night as a thank you for being with us. Last year, Paloma Siebert won over a million "dollars" as the High Stakes person. We need everyone's support to make this fun evening happen by your help in
inviting friends and neighbors.

TICKETS: Contact Jen Smith, 630-881-0000,  [email protected] , or look
for her after the Sunday service in Hobart Hall.
FUUn BUUnch
Join the Fuun Buunch Dinner Group Saturday, January 26th at 6:30 P.M. for an exotic or traditional dinner at the WORLD FAMOUS ISLAMORADA FISH COMPANY RESTAURANT in the BASS PRO SHOPS.

Please RSVP John E. Fischer, 267 992 6566 or [email protected] by Tuesday, 01/23/2019. (The restaurant requires firm numbers by this date.) If you need transportation, please tell John when you RSVP.

DIRECTIONS:
Take Rte 75 to Exit 128, Alico Rd.
Turn EAST onto Alico Rd. to THE GULF COAST TOWN CENTER.
Turn RIGHT onto ROYAL QUEEN BVD.
Turn RIGHT onto GULF CENTER DRIVE.
Keep RIGHT on GULF CENTER DRIVE to the
BASS PRO SHOP.
THE ISLAMORADA FISH COMPANY RESTAURANT is to your left
IN THE BASS PRO SHOPS.

Our next FUUN BUUNCH DINNER will be at Monarco’s in the Edison Mall on
February 16th. NOTE: This is one week earlier from our customary last week to accommodate other church functions.
Service Auction
Venetian Masquerade Ball!
Saturday, February 23rd, 5:00 pm

While the guests will be disguised, there is nothing secret about the cause.

The UUCFM annual Service Auction is an important fundraising event for the church (and always a fun party), but it is also a great way to bring people together. Do you have a special talent or skill or a unique item to donate? Ideas for services to donate: Host a brunch, dinner or dessert party; Host a ping-pong or pool tournament; Take a few people on a nature hike or bird-watching tour of a local preserve; Set up a poker run or scavenger hunt; Offer a few hours of babysitting or handyman services. Other popular items are homemade scones, pizzas or lasagna, handmade quilts and paintings and gift cards! Everyone can participate and help expand our mission to Love, Grow and Serve.

Questions about the auction? Contact Helen Dixon or Sheila Jaskie, or you can reach us at [email protected] .
UUCFM Classes & Groups
Expanding our Small Group Ministry
You may have heard of the UU terminology “Small Group Ministry” (SGM) and wondered what it means, and more specifically what it means to UUCFM. The Membership Team, whose mission is “to build and sustain a healthy and happy congregation,” is looking at expanding our successes to date with SGM as a
way to better achieve our mission. The goals of SGM are three-fold:

 to increase the depth of member relationships
 to deepen the search for meaning that is grounded in our varied lives and spiritual journeys (rather than creeds)
 to support members as they grow in generosity, cooperation, and sense of well-being.

This article is one of a series that will help describe SGMs and begin a constructive discussion about if/how we can expand them at UUCFM. So, let’s start by first defining SGM by describing the elements of these small groups.

 Size: 8 to 10 people plus a facilitator(s)
 Frequency of meetings: at least once a month in someone’s house or at church
 Format: combines worshipful and centering readings/rituals and personal check-ins followed by facilitated, focused discussion, and a closing reading.
 Facilitators: SGM-trained church members
 Empty chair: groups are always open to newcomers; groups split after reaching ten or so in size
 Covenants: Agreement among members on how to be with each other, a way of doing.

The Membership Team is looking for ways (1) for new and current members to connect and learn about the church (and UUism) so that they won’t get lost in our faith community, (2) to broaden and deepen the bonds that hold our congregation together, (3) to nurture and expand our leadership, (4) to provide an institutional framework and culture within which new ideas, issues, and concerns can be shared,
discussed, and acted upon before they mushroom into crises, and (5) to foster spiritual and numerical growth for the congregation.

More info on SGMs at UUCFM will be in next week’s E-News!
Women's Circle & Potluck
Starting January 22nd and continuing every 4th Tuesday, there will be a noon potluck in Hobart Hall. Bring a dish to share and your own beverage. The program for the 22nd is a vote on a nickname for us-Sisters in Spirit?, Wonder Women? (bring other suggestions), and a Guided Walk about our 13 acres. Wear closed toed shoes for the gravel and natural areas.

Feb. 26th, Noon, Program: Memories, bring a very much younger photo and we'll Guess Who!

March 26th, Noon, Program: Adventure Travel, Dorothy in Egypt, Joy in Australia....Bring your travel pics and story.

April 23rd, Noon, Program:To Be Decided

For contact information: Dorothy Van Howe, 239-560-7238,
Men's Social Group
We want you to join the  UUCFM Men's Social Group.  We meet on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 11:45 am at the Cross Creek Country Club Clubhouse/Restaurant off Daniel's Parkway. For 2019, we are planning fun social activities as well as action sessions on what the Men's Group can do to help UUCFM. For information, contact Denis Jensen at 215-436-5748 or email Denis .
Spirituality Discussion Group
The Spirituality Discussion Group meets Wednesdays at 6:45 pm in Room 2 after the Community Dinner. Our Spirituality has to do with the way one connects to ourselves,
others, nature, and the unknowns. Contact Suzanne Ziemer at [email protected] with any questions.
Connection Circles
The Next Connection Circle begins January 27th! Calling all visitors and new and long-time members who want to get to know each other in a deep and meaningful way to come to the next Connection Circle! Bond with others in this facilitated group by discussing different spiritual topics as they pertain to your life. Always lively and heart-felt, participation in the Connection Circle is a great way to meet new folks and to deepen connections to those you already know. This facilitated 6-session group will meet from 12:15-1:45 pm after church in a classroom (to be determined) beginning January 27th and continue on 2/10, 2/24, 3/10, 3/24, and 4/14. Participants are expected to attend all 6 sessions. For more information and to register, please contact Nancy Letts at  [email protected]  or call at 401-741-2712.
Great Decisions
If you would like more information on our 2019 Great Decisions series, please email Helen Leddy at [email protected] . Great Decisions meets on Thursday evenings in Hobart Hall in February and March.
Book Club
The UUCFM Book Club meets Wednesdays at 1:00 pm in the Conference Room. We started a new book the first Wednesday of January: David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell.  https://www.amazon.com/David-Goliath-Underdogs-Misfits-Battling/dp/0316204374 All welcome to attend.
Mindfulness Meditation
Join us on Monday evenings to explore the simple and satisfying practices of mindfulness and meditation. You don’t need experience with meditation, nor do you have to be a Buddhist. Please bring intention to quiet the mind and body in a supportive group of UU members and friends with a similar intention - people who want to carry mindfulness into their daily lives. We meet Mondays from 6:30-8:00p in the Sanctuary. If you have any questions, please call or text Gary Robbins at 302-540-5899.
Rissho Kosei-kai
The Rissho Kosei-kai Buddhist group meets Sundays in Room 1. All are welcome to join us. We have a new meeting time- 2:00-4:00 pm.
UUCFM Weekly Activities
Community Wednesday
Please join us for Chef Joy's Community Wednesday Dinners at 6:00 pm each Wednesday. She will be serving salad, soup and entree. The price is $5.00. The meal is vegetarian, but every other week will feature a meat item alternate.

Community Activities for January:
6:00-6:45    Band Rehearsal in Sanctuary
6:45-8:00    Choir Rehearsal in Sanctuary
6:45-8:00  Spiritual Discussion group thru May 2019 in Room 2.
Social Justice
South Fort Myers Food Pantry
The support that UUCFM has shown to our pantry over the years is greatly appreciated and along with other coalition members' support it has helped the South Fort Myers Food Pantry (FMFP) to feed 23,000 people in need during the year. The Harry Chapin Food Bank is vital to our mission, to feed the needy of South Fort Myers, at a very modest cost. They are however, making some changes at Harry Chapin.

In the past, members of our congregation have financially supported the pantry by donating directly to the pantry or by sending checks to the Harry Chapin Food Bank with the stipulation the funds were to support the SFMFP. The Food Bank would then place the funds in a "Designated Grant" account for our use to purchase food. They are eliminating these accounts. Now, any checks they receive in support of one particular pantry will be returned to the sender. Therefore, our pantry is requesting that any monetary donations be sent directly to and made out to:

   The South Fort Myers Food Pantry

If you feel strongly about your donation being only for food and not for operating expenses, write "for food only" on the memo line. The pantry relies on the support of the coalition churches for the funds and the volunteers needed. There are no paid positions and it takes hundreds of volunteer hours and thousands of dollars each month to accomplish our mission. If you have questions call Fran Rose and leave a message at 617-750-0470.
Caring News
Caring Network
If you have any caring concerns, please contact our Caring Network coordinator, Neil Yesu at  [email protected]
More
Creating A UUCFM “Nextdoor” Communications Tree
Over the past few months, the Membership Ministry Team has been experimenting with announcing church events on the private neighborhood network called Nextdoor.com. We’ve had notable success with the limited test to date. There seems to be a healthy number of regular users of the website. We’d like to expand the Church’s ability to tap this media marketplace across several neighborhoods so that
we can reach more potential members and participants in our events. And here’s the best part, at no cost to the Church.

Nextdoor.com only allows sign-up to a neighborhood within which you physically reside. For example, the neighborhood to which I belong is an area running west of Rt. 41 from Alico Road to roughly Estero Parkway. Any resident within that area can join that Nextdoor.com neighborhood. (They verify your address in one of several ways, such as the mailing address of the phone number you list for yourself.) In
my neighborhood, 11% of the 6000 households are members. That’s a sizeable market segment.

So, the Membership Team would like to call on anyone in the Church, who feels technically comfortable in trying this, to sign-up and let us know that you’ve signed-up. Then, when we want to announce an event, we’ll send an email to each of you and ask you to post it on your Nextdoor.com neighborhood network. Kind of like what we used to call a “telephone tree.”

To sign-up, follow the instructions at nextdoor.com. You will have to enter your email address, street address and phone number. When they verify you, they will give you a code and then call you and ask you to input the code. That’s it.

It’s a great place to get referrals for local tradespeople and professional services, as well as to buy/sell something, all of which I have tried with good outcomes. There are nearly 190,000 such nextdoor.com neighborhoods across the country, so I think most of the security issues have been dealt with.

Please let me know if you establish an account so we can include you in our “Nextdoor communications tree.”

Bill Petrarca, Membership
Bed & Breakfast
We are preparing for another year of UUCFM’s Bed and Breakfast program. Through the generosity of host families within our congregation, we have raised $3000 to $5000 a year for the church operating budget for many years. We provide this service to UUs and/or their friends from around the country. This program cannot happen without volunteers and we need your help!

What’s needed to be a host? The host provides one bedroom and bathroom and a basic breakfast each morning of the guests’ stay. The guests are usually one or two people. The breakfast can even be a “do it yourself” if your guests are early risers or you have to go to work and they want to sleep.

Do I have to entertain the guests or take them places? You are not expected to provide entertainment, transportation or extra food. For the most part, guests are off doing their own thing most of the day and evening.

When and for how long? Guests stay from one to seven nights during the months of January through April. (Most stay only two or three nights.) guests. I usually send out an email to all potential hosts when a request is received and the hosts respond as to their availability. Even if you can only host for two nights in March, for example, that is a big help. February and March tend to be in the biggest demand.

All money received from the guests as they stay in your home goes directly to UUCFM operating funds. I haven’t even mentioned how interesting and fun this experience can be for the hosts. We have met so many great UUs through this experience! Please consider being a host. Before you say no, talk to me! Just try it once…

Mary Nies , Program Coordinator
239-466-7933
Shop and Help UUCFM!
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Member to Member
Do you have something to offer, trade, or sell? Are you looking for something? Free ad space here for personal items only. Will run ad for 4 weeks. Email  [email protected] .

*I woud like to get rid of my pool table for $100. It includes 3 Cue sticks, all balls and rack, and misc. items. Please see picture. Call Mickey 239-738-3473. Will deliver with your help.

*TICKETS FOR FLORIDA REPERTORY THEATER $25/each
Contact [email protected] if you’d like to buy these tickets
1.       Tenderly: The Rosemary Clooney Story  DATE: Thu Jan 24  TIME: 2:00pm PRICE: 2 tickets at $25/each (TOTAL $50)
2.       Hay Fever  DATE: Wed February 13  TIME: 2:00pm PRICE: 2 tickets at $25/each (TOTAL $50)
3.       Million Dollar Quartet  DATE: Wed March 20  TIME:2:00pm PRICE: 2 tickets at $25/each (TOTAL = $50)
4.       National Gardens  DATE: Thu May 2  TIME:2:00pm PRICE: 2 tickets at $25/each (TOTAL $50)
Our Greater Community
Taxes Done for Free!
Visit UnitedWayLee.org/freetaxprep or dial 2-1-1 or 239-433-3900 to schedule an appointment.
Dinner Go Round Fun
Some of our UUCFM members attending a Dinner-Go-Round at Fort Myers Beach!

Happy Birthday!
January 19  Declan Ireland is 14!
January 23  Mel Cooper
January 26  Emily Hutchinson
Contact Us
Board of Trustees
President               
Matt Hoffman 239-222-4836  [email protected]
President Elect
Theresa Bahre  843-472-0386   [email protected]  
Secretary  
Alison Carville 239-634-0487  [email protected]
Treasurer
Jen Smith  630-881-0000   [email protected]             
VP Finance
Vacant 
VP Programming
Cathy Snow 239-896-3693 cm [email protected]
VP Ministerial Services
Lesley Peterson 239-839-4434  [email protected]
VP Operations
Mary Alice Pierce 239-267-4429  [email protected]           
Member at Large
Don Ehat 239-947-8143  [email protected]

Staff
Minister             
Rev. Allison Farnum  239-561-2700x204   [email protected]
Director of Music   
Suellen Kipp  [email protected]
Director of RE        
Office Manager       
Building Supervisor   
Mickey Kellam  239-738-3473   [email protected]
Nursery Supervisor  
Liza Kellam  239-314-631   [email protected]
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