October 14, 2019
I. Relationship Unconscious Podcast Series and Group Seminar Recordings
Please go to the Relationship Unconscious site to view the library of podcast episodes and group seminar recordings currently available.
II. Group Seminar Meetings on Saturday, October 19, 2019*
The Men's Group Seminar: What "Dark Horses" Teach Us About Success
10:15 to 11:30 AM

Harvard social scientist Todd Rose has co-authored a new book entitled "Dark Horse: Achieving Success Through the Pursuit of Fulfillment." Rose argues that long-held notions of success are constricted, and he instead emphasizes the role of individuality (i.e., "breaking the mold") when approaching the arc of one's life. By studying "dark horses" who derailed from conventionality and, as such, should have never really made it but actually did, Rose found that those persons who adhere to self-generated and self-defining "micro-motives" ultimately achieve professional success and personal fulfillment. These ideas build on Rose's previous book "The End of Average"  in which he contends that the notion of "average" is a purely statistical concept (e.g., there is no such thing as average) that unfortunately has resulted in a range of institutions (including our educational system) failing to personify learning, growth, and achievement.  In the next meeting of the Men's Group Seminar on Saturday, October 19, 2019 (10:15 to 11:30 AM), we will explore the work of Todd Rose. 
The Relationship Group Seminar: The Wounded Heart: How We Heal 
11:45 AM to 1:00 PM

Life inevitably involves disappointment, loss, and trauma; while our relational experiences can be the source of great joy, they also enable us access to significant pain.  In the next meeting of the Relationship Group Seminar on Saturday, October 19, 2019 (11:45 AM to 1:00 PM) , we will continue to discuss the concept of healing by exploring the 2016 groundbreaking article "Growing from an Invisible Wound: A Humanistic-Existential Approach" to PTSD by Mélanie Vachon, Prudence C. Bessette and Christine Goyette. Emphasizing an existential view of trauma and suffering, these authors highlight the importance of "shattered assumptions" and "the enlargement of existential awareness" as primary components of psychological and emotional healing. We will explore the meaning of these ideas and apply them to the experience of heartache and loss in romantic love.  
III. Psychotherapy Group
The Dynamic Psychotherapy Process Group
 1:15 to 2:30 PM

This therapy group utilizes the emerging dynamics among group members, and between the group members and facilitator, as a basis from which to examine one's characteristic ways of thinking, feeling, and relating to others.  Our next group session will be on Saturday, October 19, 2019 (1:15 to 2:30 PM) at the Laguna Hills office location. T he Dynamic Psychotherapy Process Group is a therapeutic experience and entry occurs only after a pre-group screening interview.
* If you would like to attend the Men's Group Seminar and/or the Relationship Group Seminar on October 19, 2019, please RSVP to me at 949-338-4388 or jt@jamestobinphd.com . There is a limit of 14 attendees for each group and registrants will be accommodated on a first-come/first-serve basis. The fee is $25.00 (payable via cash or check at the time of the group meeting).

Location:
The Water Garden Business Center
23421 South Pointe Drive, Suite 130
Laguna Hills, CA, 92653

Please note that the Men's Group Seminar and the Relationship Group Seminar are psychoeducational in nature, not therapeutic, and do not constitute psychotherapy or counseling.
James Tobin, Ph.D., PSY 22074 | 949-338-4388 |   jt@jamestobinphd.com