VOLUME XVI ISSUE NO.9 | SEPTEMBER 2024 | |
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Two Arrows
Some pain is unavoidable. It is there. You are feeling it. It is the first arrow referred to in the Buddhist parable. But you can avoid the tightening around it, the second arrow, which worsens the pain.
The first arrow is the unavoidable pain of an event. The second arrow is the avoidable, self-imposed stress that comes from tightening up around the pain, complaining, worrying, seeking retribution, being angry at oneself or others, etc.
OY expresses annoyance, dismay, pain, grief, worry, etc. You might be experiencing it as "Oh crap" or some other expletive. They are all OY responses.
The OY Response leads us to ruminate and perseverate about the experience.
The OM Response opens us to acceptance and equanimity, to freedom from the unnecessary suffering of the second arrow.
Action
Whenever you catch yourself "chanting" OY, change it to OM and rest in presence and awareness for a moment. From there you can do whatever makes the most sense.
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The Peaceful Warriors Path: Optimal Wellness through Self-Aware Living
Overcome stress. Perform at your best. Live in optimal wellness.
The Peaceful Warrior's Path is a practical guide for people of all ages, regardless of physical condition. It provides concepts, tools, techniques, and exercises that you can use every day, no matter where you are or what you are doing, to promote a sense of ease rather than angst. It is a motivational program for living resiliently, ready for anything, with health, happiness, and success, passionately involved and at peace with things as they are-and doing it ethically with kindness and compassion.
When it comes to becoming happier and more effective, what matters is your intention, how open-minded you are, and your willingness to work on yourself to change your mind and open your heart. With the right mindset, intention, and effort you might just experience enlightenment.
The Peaceful Warrior's Path weaves together self-awareness, mindfulness, meditation, stress management, and relaxation techniques, and emotional, spiritual, and social intelligence to sustain optimal wellness and enhance performance in whatever you do.
The Peaceful Warrior’s Path: Optimal Wellness through Self-Aware Living
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How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared:
How to be happy...How to be Happy Even When You Are Sad, Mad or Scared is available on Amazon.com. It is a book for children of all ages (including those in adult bodies). Buy it for the children in your life so they can be better able to “feel and deal” - feel and accept their emotions and deal with them in a way that avoids being driven by them. You can order the book at https://www.amazon.com/How-Happy-Even-When-Scared/dp/1072233363
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Performance and Open-minded Mindfulness | |
Open-minded: questioning everything, accepting diversity and uncertainty.
Mindful: consciously aware; concentrated.
Foundation for blending process, project, engagement and knowledge management into a cohesive approach to optimize performance.
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By George Pitagorsky
Success is measured in how well and how regularly you meet expectations. But what exactly are expectations, and how do you effectively manage them when multiple priorities and personalities are involved?
Using the case study of a Project Manager coordinating an organizational transition, this Managing Expectations book explores how to apply a mindful, compassionate, and practical approach to satisfying expectations in any situation. George Pitagorsky describes how to make sure expectations are rational, mutually understood, and accepted by all those with a stake in the project. This process relies on blending a crisp analytical approach with the interpersonal skills needed to negotiate win-win understandings of what is supposed to be delivered, by when, for how much, by who, and under what conditions.
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Managing Conflict in Projects
By George Pitagorsky
Managing Conflict in Projects: Applying Mindfulness and Analysis for Optimal Results by George Pitagorsky charts a course for identifying and dealing with conflict in a project context.
Pitagorsky states up front that conflict management is not a cookbook solution to disagreement-a set of prescribed actions to be applied in all situations. His overall approach seeks to balance two aspects of conflict management: analysis based on a codified process and people-centered behavioral skills.
The book differentiates conflict resolution and conflict management. Management goes beyond resolution to include relationship building that may serve to avoid conflict or facilitate resolution if it occurs.
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The Zen Approach to Project Management
By George Pitagorsky
Projects are often more complex and stressful than they need to be. Far too many of them fail to meet expectations. There are far too many conflicts. There are too few moments of joy and too much anxiety. But there is hope. It is possible to remove the unnecessary stress and complexity. This book is about how to do just that. It links the essential principles and techniques of managing projects to a "wisdom" approach for working with complex, people-based activities.
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