As a researcher in the UK says, "Self-compassion is not nimby, bimby stuff. Compassion is sensitivity to the suffering of self and others and a commitment to do something about it."

A leading researcher and advocate Kristin Neff identifies self-compassion as having three aspects: mindfulness, common humanity and kindness. Mindfulness being the experience of your feelings in the now instead of trying to avoid or exasperate them. Mindfulness counters the tendency to either avoid painful thoughts and emotions or to ruminate about them; allowing us to hold the truth of our experience even when it's unpleasant. Common humanity is framing our imperfection in light of the shared human experience so that we're less likely to feel isolated and disconnected from others when we fail.
 
"Being self-compassionate means that you are open to your suffering and you offer support and understanding toward yourself," she says. "It can help people take responsibility for setbacks of failures, acknowledge the setback without judgment, and recognize that everyone makes mistakes and that you can learn from these experiences"