For Principals, Teachers and Families
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Issue: #2 January 2017
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Who Are You Watching?

Sandy Hook Promise
is a national non-profit organization founded and led by several family members whose loved ones were killed at Sandy Hook Elementary School on December 14, 2012. Based in Newtown, Connecticut, their intent is to honor all victims of gun violence by turning their tragedy into a moment of transformation by providing programs and practices that protect children and prevent the senseless, tragic loss of life.


The embedded video KNOW THE SIGNS asks the viewer to identify and reach out to people who are at-risk of hurting themselves or others. These individual often show signs and signals before an act of violence takes place. When you don't know what to look for, it can be easy to miss signs, or dismiss them as unimportant, sometimes with tragic consequences. It's important to know that one warning sign on its own does not mean a person is planning an act of violence. But when many connected or cumulative signs are observed over a period of time, it could mean that the person is heading down a pathway towards violence or self-harm. By knowing the signs, you have the power to intervene and get help for that person. Your actions can save lives. Please share this video with your staff and begin the dialogue "Who are you watching?" For more information please go to www.sandyhookpromise.org.
Tips for Teachers 
Teaching Caring and Respect in the Age of Bullying
 
Classroom time allows for numerous opportunities to teach children the importance of showing caring and respect and thus preventing future acts of bullying. Child-to-child or child-to-teacher interactions offer chances to recognize the nature of caring actions on the part of children, or how respect may be demonstrated by allowing others to speak or notice a child's special talents. Children must learn to "treat others as you would want to be treated," as a fundamental. As teachers, you are also called upon to nourish self-respect, and balance the critical way a child may in fact look at themselves. You may also have to teach children to withstand these annoying "barbs" as not every slight is worthy of a response. As easy as it may be to be caring, children also eventually learn that sometimes caring can be inherently unpleasant. Such as a doctor healing us despite that intervention may hurt. Another example may be when a parent provides discipline as a caring act that may allow the child to be more self-controlled and functional in the future. Each day as education professionals, you are called to seize these opportunities and make them explicit with our children.

EPIC - Every Person Influences Children has a learning standards base PreK to 8 Character Education program designed to teach nine core traits while reinforcing NYS learning standards. Grade level manuals contain 36 character development activities, sample letter to families and bulletin board ideas to supplement your classroom work. Visit www.epicforchildren.org for more information or email [email protected] for a sample packet of our work.
Family Focus
Introduction to Respect?  

Some philosophers, such as Immanuel Kant, see respect as a cornerstone  of moral behavior. Every individual of value is worthy of respect. By recognizing another's humanity, we acknowledge their right to be respected, which includes their right to be treated with courtesy and consideration.

This centrality of respect in moral thinking has significant consequences. For example, lying is a form of disrespect. A problem with lying is in its negative social consequences. A breakdown in trust leads to a breakdown in society, but what about lies that don't have that effect? What if you don't get caught? Would lying still be wrong? Yes, from the prospective of respect. When we lie, we disrespect another person. We are playing with their minds and beliefs and disrespecting their right to the truth; that violation is a moral wrong. Just as lying deals with the moral issue of respecting others, we are constantly faced with other choices that will make us reflect on similar behaviors that relate to respect.

In teaching children the importance of respect, we need to help them recognize the moral standing of other people and the dignity that comes with that status. More broadly, we respect particular features of other persons, such as: respecting elders for the wisdom that comes with age; teachers for their knowledge and concern; successful people for their talents and accomplishments; different lifestyles' beliefs and cultures for their own traditions and perspectives. We need to help children understand that respect is part of the golden rule, to treat others as you would have them treat you. They need to appreciate that manners are a genuine way to show respect.

Each child is a person worthy of respect. Nourishing self-respect, therefore, is a critical part of learning respect. Every child has a right to demand that respect. When self-respect is attacked, children need to learn how to respond appropriately, but also to recognize that not every negative remark is an attack on one's dignity. A child with self-respect will learn to form a "tough skin" that will deflect these sorts of attacks. This is why it is so important that a child have self-respect, because in order to have the ability to respect others, they must first respect themselves.
 
The goal in the area of respect is to provide activities that encourage children to recognize:
  • Ways of showing respect toward family members, teachers and peers
  • The importance of respecting the opinions of others
  • How and why they should respect authority figures
  • The importance of standing up for what they believe
  • The need to respect themselves
  • The golden rule, Treating others the way they would like to be treated
  • The importance of respecting their environment
  • How and why they should appreciate others who are different from them
HOME ACTIVITY - RESPECT
What's in an Answer?

 

1. Explain to your child that one of the definitions of respect is "to consider to think about something before you speak or act". Discuss with them how it makes us feel when others ask us questions or to do something that we might not feel comfortable answering or doing at that time. Point out to them that one of the ways we can make people feel respected, is by thinking about our responses before we act or answer. We would want to use appropriate words, phrases and gestures. One way we can be sure of this is the use of manners when we speak and respond.


2. Practice asking your child questions, by role-playing different scenarios. Allow your child to be both the person who asks the questions and answers them. Demonstrate for the child some of the correct words, phrases, tone of voice, expressions and gestures that can be used. You may also want to demonstrate some of the inappropriate ways that people respond, and discuss how it makes others feel disrespected or not considered.

3. Help your child create an affirmation statement which is a statement that declares a positive word or action we will use for example; I will always use the words "Thank You" or "No Thank You" when I am asked if I want to do or have something.

4. Summarize by saying, It is important to treat others well and one way we do this is to think about how we make them feel.
Message from EPIC
Cyberbullying - What Parents Need to Know


Cyberbullying is bullying through Internet applications and technologies such as instant messaging (IM), social networking sites, and cell phones. Common forms of cyberbullying include:

  • Flaming and Trolling - Sending or posting hostile messages intended to affect emotion.
  • Happy Slapping - Recording someone being harassed or bullied in a way that usually involves physical abuse, then posting the video online for public viewing.
  • Photoshopping - Doctoring digital images so that the main subject is placed in a compromising or embarrassing situation.
  • Physical Threats - Sending messages that involve threats.

Talking to your Adolescent about Cyberbullying

Discussion Starters:
  • How does your school deal with cyberbullying?
  • Have you ever sent a mean message because you were upset?
  • What would you do if someone created a mean, fake profile for you or one of your friends?
  • How can you stop yourself from being cyberbullied?
Tips:
  • Tell your child not to respond to rude e-mails, messages, and comments.
  • Save the evidence, such as e-mail and text messages, and take screenshots of comments and images. Also, take note of the date and time when the harassment occurs.
  • If harassment is via e-mail, social networking sites, IM, and chat rooms, instruct your child to "block" bullies.
  • If harassment is via text and phone messages, check out the phone features that may allow the number to be blocked.
EPIC offers two comprehensive programs on Internet & Social Media Safety, one geared towards middle and high school students and the other for parents. For more information on this program and how to offer it to your students and/or parents, please contact Shelley Richards at [email protected] or call 716-332-3140.