The Apostle Paul spent the lion's share of his ministry tackling the practical issue of table manners. How should the good news of Jesus Christ transform the people we invite to our table, and the ways we converse with Jesus' table companions who look, think, and maybe even, believe differently than we do? To a young Christian community who was struggling with their table manners, Paul exhorted them to grow into maturity, or Christ-likeness, by "speaking the truth in love" (Ephesians 4:15). Alright, Paul, that sounds nice, but how am I supposed to do that when the inevitable post-election comment or "have you been exercising lately" question "just comes up" in conversation this week?

 

Speak the truth with an extra helping of love. Open the door to a face-to-face conversation rather than a behind-the-back jab. Embrace conflict as a means, not a threat, to true reconciliation. Remember that truth without love can be plain cruel, just as love without truth is unrealistic, "cheap grace." You making peace with an estranged relative or friend by initiating a courageous conversation is more important than the turkey being perfectly cooked.

 

Oftentimes, the most missional places of discipleship are our own homes and families. Choose to pass the peace this holiday season.