Fourth, a Royal Correspondent talks about following Prince Harry around the world. No surprise, he's really a real neat human being.

 

Four Videos Guaranteed to Bring a Smile!  

 

It's a Jimmy Fallon month. I think he really has genuine fun playing games and loves people. 

 

 

Jimmy plays "Password" with Ellen DeGeneres, Steve Carell, and Reese Witherspoon.  

 

Here's another Jimmy Fallon clip, where Jimmy interviews kids about what kind of work their mom and dad do.  

 

It's Jimmy again, playing true confessions with Tina Fey and Amy Poehler.  

 

And last, he plays true confessions with Jennifer Lawrence and John Oliver.

   

 

        How can we fight the Dwindle Effect? Making a long-term change in life isn't rocket science. To actualize your goals and good intentions, do these five things:

1. At those crucial moments when you're justifying not following through with the new behavior --- make a new choice! Stomp, shiver, or cry to deal with your anger, fear, or sadness. Find a safe place and do it with abandon for just three minutes! Your unexpressed emotions are clouding your ability to choose anything new. I know that sounds radical, but it's not. Emote and then remember your goal (see #2).
 

2.   With awareness, changing old habits IS possible and sustainable. Locate your self-sabotaging thoughts and find contradictions that support you. Remind yourself of the reality when you start to waiver. "I hate looking like this. I want to be more fit. I'm doing this for me."
 

3.   Make sure the change you desire is doable, specific, and reasonable. Maybe you can't become a gym rat five days a week but you could catch one class two mornings a week fairly easily. And make sure your goal resonates as what's true for you.
 

4.   Get a buddy who also wants to make a change and establish a regular daily, weekly, or in between check-in for support and accountability. Initiate and contact him or her at the appointed time, no matter what. Each person gets two to five minutes of listening (set your own reasonable amount of time). The first one talks of victories and breakdown, and the next specific steps he or she needs to take between now and the next check-in, and then appreciates themselves. Then switch and listen while the other person talks about how they are doing with their new behavior.
 

5.   When you choose the old habit today, don't give up your good intentions altogether. It really IS okay. Get up and start again fresh tomorrow. It's a brand new day.
 

Develop a strategy, whether it's choosing some truths for tough moments, selecting another substitute, or setting a shorter-range goal that's more achievable, pick something. If you relapse, don't abandon your goal. Just remember the Dwindle Effect. Deal with your emotions and then step back onto the battlefield of life.

Keep checking in to make sure your steps to your goal are small, reasonable, and doable. Keep at it and you'll conquer the Dwindle Effect and bask in a new confidence.

         The Dwindle Effect is familiar to most of us!