Though it is an unfortunate truth, all relationships are manipulative and highly coercive.  In romantic love, we do not love our partner; instead, we love the partner we want to see and experience.  In this way, the subtext of all romantic relationships is the inevitable conflict between "being who your partner wants you to be" vs. "being who you really are."  Many partners resolve this conflict by gradually losing their identity in the relationship and accommodating to their partner's wishes.  In contrast, others apprehend the conflict and go to war with their partners.  Unfortunately, both strategies rarely work.  In the next meeting of the Dating and Relationship Group on Saturday, August 6, 12:00 to 1:15 PM, I will flesh out a rationale for "against being nice" which is rooted in the concept of psychological induction.  Learning how to avoid inducing others, and being induced by others, is the main competency necessary for finding and maintaining positive authentic relationships.