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| New Video: Thoughts On Codependency |
Brand New Video Filmed September 4th!
Short Talk On Codependency
(First video I made in a long time. My hair looks crazy but I'm going with it!)
*People With Codependent Tendencies may:
- think and feel responsible for other people - for other people's feelings, thoughts, actions, choices, wants, needs, well-being, lack of well-being, and ultimate destiny.
- feel anxiety, pity, and guilt when other people have a problem.
- feel compelled - almost forced - to help that person solve the problem, such as offering unwanted advice, giving a rapid-fire series of suggestions, or fixing feelings.
- feel angry when their help isn't effective.
- anticipate other people's needs.
- wonder why others don't do the same for them.
- find themselves saying yes when they mean no, doing things they don't really want to be doing, doing more than their fair share of the work, and doing things other people are capable of doing for themselves.
- not know what they want and need or, if they do, tell themselves what they want and need is not important.
- try to please others instead of themselves.
- find it easier to feel and express anger about injustices done to others, rather than injustices done to themselves.
- feel safest when giving.
- feel insecure and guilty when somebody gives to them.
- feel sad because they spend their whole lives giving to other people and nobody gives to them.
- find themselves attracted to needy people.
- find needy people attracted to them.
- feel bored, empty, and worthless if they don't have a crisis in their lives, a problem to solve, or someone to help.
- abandon their routine to respond to or do something for somebody else.
- over-commit themselves.
- feel harried and pressured.
* List from Codependent No More By Melody Beattie
A Ho,
Gregory Drambour,
Magic Kingdom Sector, AZ September 2016
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New Testimonial - September 4
Freedom From Codependency Program Member
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I have known Greg for about 7 years now. I first met him when I was in Arizona and had a wonderful retreat with him. And then, I connected with him again, now for the second time over the years for his programs. The most recent program I have been working on, Freedom From Codependency Program, has really changed my life for the better. Greg gave me the tools I needed to make difficult life decisions, and feel confident and good about them, even when my external circumstances seemed chaotic. I'm a big believer in the fact that our outside world matches our inside world, and now I really feel like I am on the path to have those two worlds match in a peaceful and beautiful way! Thank you Greg for your tough love, for your patience, and your ongoing mentoring over the years. Aho! " ----Tina B
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"Our main business is not to see what lies ahead dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand."
---Thomas Carlyle
(21 Words that inspired Dr. William Osler. From Dale Carnegie's
How To Stop Worrying and Start Living)
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Sweet Bean
One of those special little movies you feel grateful for finding. It takes about 10 to 15 minutes to get going so hang in there. It's Japanese and the acting by the older actress is so beautiful and delicate. The movies touches on the sensitive subject of leprosy in Japan and just the desire to be needed and one person "seeing" another person. I feel blessed I found this movie. And she talks to the Tree-People so I am of course a fan :)
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**New: Relationship Themes**
Free Half-Hour Phone Sessions Open This Week!
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8 Free Consult Sessions this week: September 5 - Sept 9
Every few years, I offer half-hour free phone consultation for those subscribers who are interested. If any of the following themes are coming up for you, schedule some time!
Relationship Themes:
- My partner and I just don't listen to one another.
- My feeling are never acknowledged.
- I don't understand why my partner can't see it my way!
- We can't get together on parenting.
- He or She has a deeper commitment to their electronics.
- I just keep hoping at some point they will change.
- There is no sense of emotional intimacy or I would just like us to feel that way again.
- I can't forgive them -- I want to but i just can't.
- I am not getting my needs met.
- I feel like I have completely lost who I am.
- My mother drives me crazy!
- I am parenting the way I promised myself I would never parent!
- Please show me how to experience my partner, parents and friends with compassion. I am tired of judging everyone.
- I know I am controlling but don't know how to stop.
- I am always in state of worry or fear
- I Want To Forgive Myself and Others.
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Please Help Me Stop Thinking So Much!
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I Want My True Self To Come Out!
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I Want To Know When My Wisdom Is Talking To Me.
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I'm Stuck & I Can't Figure Out How To Get Unstuck!
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I Am So Tired Of My Need To Control Everything! How Do I Let Go?
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I Know There Is Something I Am Suppose To Do, I Just Don't How To Figure It Out!
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I Get The Laws Of Attraction But It Isn't Working!
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I Have Gone to Workshops, Counseling But I Still Can't Find The Peace Inside!
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Identifying and Clearing The Emotional Contributor to Illness!
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