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From The Positive Perspective.......
If you feel as though you are in an abusive situation, physical or verbal, you need to realize that you have choices to make. No one has the right to force someone else do something that is not their free will. No matter how little self-esteem or self-confidence you have, if you are at the beginning of a relationship and someone tries to "convince" you to do something that you know is not appropriate or doesn't feel right, that is a red flag that needs to be addressed. Pay attention to it and seek advice from someone you trust, such as a parent, religious advisor or other adult.
If you feel you are currently in an abusive situation and you are a parent, your children are being affected as well. Many of my clients come from an abusive home of some form and they are desperately trying to break that cycle that they witnessed as a child. If you are not willing to make a change for yourself, then make that change to help the next generation.
If you are at that stage of life where you are considering a mate for life, be sure you know the person's background and have met their family and friends. Many abusers will avoid introducing a potential mate to family in order to cover up that very important detail of their life. If you suspect anything, it is probably for a reason. You are worth the effort to know for sure. Those family patterns are not easily broken....but they can be with many years of work and dedication.
Before you become a parent, be sure you are in a good situation with your mate where you are confident in your skills to bring another life into this world. If you are not in a good place or feel abused in any way, a child will absolutely NOT make the situation better. Take the appropriate precautions until you can make the decision.
If you feel you are the abuser, you need to recognize that you are hurting another person and need to get help. Usually abusers need to control as an adult, because they have not had any control as a child or were abused themselves. You can change that cycle with the proper dedication to the process and can get control over your own life, instead of needing to control someone else's life. This will not change overnight but there are many programs and organizations that can help. Reach out to them for guidance.
While I know this is just a quick overview of the topic, I hope it has given just one person some confidence to make a change or seek change in some way to help themselves or someone important in their life.
I wish you all well in your pursuits of happiness and if I can be of assistance in any way, please let me know.
As always, thank you for looking at this issue
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.From The Positive Perspective.
Stay well.
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