What is so often overlooked in our fast-moving judgmental world is that every positive trait we have has a challenge that goes with it. As a young attorney my goal was to be emotionally bullet proof. I maintained my titanium armor while denying I had any weaknesses or faults. But, secretly I knew that was a lie. For example, I had a compulsion to double check myself even if I was only slightly uncertain. I interrupted others constantly never admitting that if I didn't get my idea out while I was thinking it that my thought would often disappear. If I was trying to listen to a professor who droned on and on without showing me anything new my attention wandered, and I would discover I hadn't heard what had been said. The list goes on and on but the constant need to stay defended against what I saw as my hidden weaknesses left me feeling both combative and insecure at the same time.

When I learned face reading I discovered that what I labeled as defects were a part of who I am. My crooked bottom teeth revealed that while I hold myself to high standards and hate being wrong the price for avoiding error is a compulsion to double check myself. My high ears and low eyebrows indicated that my mind operated at warp speed but the drawback for being quick to respond was sometimes forgetting what I was going to say. My small ears indicated that I take in the entire experience including the tone, context, and feel, including what the other person was trying to hide. But, my small ear intake is visual and without visual cues my attention would shift. It also explained to me why I had a compulsion to try to write down every word said in the lecture...so I could see them.

The new awareness provided by the face reading allowed me to accept myself for who I am rather than seeing myself as defective and needing to hide it. It also allowed me to modify my behavior by owning it. When I have a compulsion to interrupt I now know I need to write down the thought for discussion later. I can forgive myself for double checking, realizing it is my method to avoid mistakes. But the most important change of awareness was discovering self-acceptance in admitting my challenges rather than trying to hide them. It has allowed me to feel more comfortable in my own skin and more grounded in my interactions with others.

One of the most important gifts of face reading, in my opinion, is to be able to have an objective insight into our personality and behavior with all of its complexity and challenges and to value "both sides of the coin".