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    FREE Q AND A
    Tuesday, June 28th 
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    This will be free and will air at the time of my usual weekly webinar series which will begin July 5th
     
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"I Don't Love My Son Anymore"

"Dear Dr. Coleman,

I have found that the past 3 years of estrangement, mixed in with angry, accusatory, wrongheaded accusations, that I no longer love my son. He is not the boy that I raised and not even someone I choose to consider family anymore. As a mother, that makes me feel like a terrible person."

Answer: I think that your position is healthy. As parents, we're not required to continue to remain open and affectionate to those who continue to mistreat or reject us. Part of the reason that I make such a big deal about making amends, taking responsibility, and showing empathy is that I want you to have that in the "I left no stone unturned" bank if you decide to stop trying. 

And if you decide to stop trying, it's healthy to detach in as clear a way as possible, from those who would hurt you. Yes, including your children.

We'll discuss these topics and related ones in the new series which will begin Tuesday, July 5th. Stay tuned for details. Meanwhile, join us tonight for a free Q and A.

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About Dr. Coleman

Dr. Coleman is a psychologist in private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area and a Senior Fellow with the Council on Contemporary Families, a non-partisan organization of leading sociologists, historians, psychologists and demographers dedicated to providing the press and public with the latest research and best-practice findings about American families. He has lectured at Harvard University, The University of California at Berkeley, The University of London, Cornell Weill Medical School, and blogs on parent-adult child relationships for the U.C. Berkeley publication, Greater Good Magazine.

Dr. Coleman is frequently contacted by the media for opinions and commentary about changes in the American family. He has been a frequent guest on the Today Show, NPR, and The BBC, and has also been featured on Sesame Street, 20/20, Good Morning America, America Online Coaches, PBS, and numerous news programs for FOX, ABC, CNN, and NBC television. His advice has appeared in The New York Times, The Times of London, The Shriver Report, Fortune, Newsweek, The Chicago Tribune, The Wall Street Journal, Slate, Psychology Today, U.S. World and News Report, Parenting Magazine, The Baltimore Sun and many others.

He is the author of numerous articles and chapters and has written four books: The Marriage Makeover: Finding Happiness in Imperfect Harmony (St. Martin's Press); The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework (St. Martin's Press); When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along (HarperCollins); and Married with Twins: Life, Love and the Pursuit of Marital Harmony. His books have been translated into Chinese, Croatian, and Korean, and are also available in the U.K., Canada, and Australia.

He is the co-editor, along with historian Stephanie Coontz of seven online volumes of Unconventional Wisdom: News You Can Use, a compendium of noteworthy research on the contemporary family, gender, sexuality, poverty, and work-family issues.