Interpersonal Transformation: Part I
In recent group sessions, we have been discussing the role of various unconscious factors that set the stage for the unfolding of relational dynamics that can be distressing, emotionally painful, and highly destructive. The narcissist-codependent bond has been the main example of this that we have been focusing on. I have argued that these dynamics are largely pre-determined and out of our control and awareness, which is why so many people become frustrated at identifying and limiting the negative impact of these dynamics on their lives. Consequently, these dynamics overtake our best efforts at living a healthy, productive life, and tend to cause chronic damage in our romantic lives, careers, friendships, and even in relation to our own self-care and self-esteem.
In our next group on Saturday, February 1, 2014, I will present an approach to identifying and taking better control of these dynamics - so that we do not allow them to unfold in their typical insidious fashion. My perspective on interpersonal transformation involves a systematic analysis of what constitutes how we view others and how others view us. I will suggest that how we view and are viewed consist primarily of fabrications that perpetuate a series of emotional and psychological provocations which, ultimately, restrict how we maneuver through and negotiate the social world.
How to identify and alter these fabrications is perhaps the most common question that has come up in our groups so far and that is asked by patients who see me individually for psychotherapy. I have finally devised a method for getting at these fabrications which I would like to share with you on Saturday. After my presentation, there will be ample time for questions and answers and for sharing among participants.
If you plan to attend on Saturday, February 1, please RSVP to Dr. Tobin at 949-338-4388 or [email protected]. The Men's Group will meet 10:45 AM to 12:00 PM noon, and the Dating and Relationship Group 12:00 PM to 1:15 PM. The fee is $25.00, and there is a limit of 12 people for each group. The location is The Water Garden Business Center, 23421 South Pointe Drive, Suite 130, Laguna Hills, CA, 92653.
