The heart of the answer is this: all these
skills for success are about our FEELINGS.
About relying on our emotions to get through
life's challenges.
Not, as I once
suspected,
about relying on our
great intellect to navigate
life's up and downs.
Most experts agree that people usually make
decisions based on emotions. And afterward
we use our logic to justify these decisions.
As though we need to reassure ourselves that
we made the right choices after all.
Want to see this in action? Just look wherever
people need to make a decision.
What evidence, if any, are they using?
What guides their choice?
Feelings or logic?
You'll find examples everywhere you turn.
And you do it yourself all the time, too:
- What should I plan for dinner tonight?
- What shoes should I wear today?
- Why should you believe what I'm saying?
Examine each choice we make. Nearly every time,
you'll find we make a decision based on our feelings.
And then we come up with an explanation that seems
logical enough to justify it.
It's not our fault. Like it or not, this is how we work:
Heart first, then brains.
Here's the bottom line for wedding & party music:
The secret for planning music
at any celebration
is targeting the FEELINGS behind the
celebration.
And raising children can give us skills to target
those feelings effectively.
And that's it! Case closed!
Really? Well, of course NOT.
For important decisions, I still believe
we
need
to guide our choices with some expert
advice,
as well
as with our emotions.
Let's say you're organizing a special project.
You want to work with some capable people,
eager
to make your dreams come true, right?
Inevitably, you'll make your plans based on your
feelings. We all know to expect that by now.
But don't jump in with your feelings alone.
Be smart
and gather some expert
opinions
to back up
your
feelings. Ask a pro.
Wherever you can, get advice from experienced
professionals, who've "been there, done that".
So here's why I'm thinking about this:
It won't
happen every day but
the next time
you're
planning music for a wedding
or a party,
you can call me.
Based on your intuition
, you'll already have
lots of
feelings about what music you want.
And I'll be glad to add the voice of experience to
help guide your planning.
