Poem by Kathleen
Until The Fur Comes Off
The child knows--take Bear to bed
and you'll know what to do with the dark,
you'll be able to sleep
and dream the seed that
grown tall, will make a life.
And what do we do
those of us
who had no one
to believe in us but Bear
who with his eloquent dignity
welcomed us every time
until the fur came off
and then some.
He saw our hearts break
when no one else did.
He didn't yell when we
made a mistake!
Paw in hand he went with us
on the journey
into a darkness
that was not only at night.
We all need someone
who can name us to ourselves--
it is after all
what it is about--
we need this naming
to make a beginning
where we do not have to grow
into the extremes of grief
that make daily wars
(some in foreign places
some in our own kitchens).
We step deeply into life
when a person can say aloud to us
what Bear could never speak
in sounds that make warm waves
in the blood of our heart--
we need to hear the words
as vital as air and dinner and sleep
"Ah, you are afraid, my love,
you are beautiful,
you are sad,
you are alive and belong with us,
it's okay, my love
it's okay,"
and wonder of wonders
we suddenly find our hand in theirs
and grow a little more shining and sturdy.
It doesn't get rid of the dark
but the sound
of the naming
gives us the dignity
we gave Bear to hold for us
in hopes we would grow into it--
the dignity to know we matter.
Better late than never, my love.
Find someone kind to listen to you
and then return it and be kind back
until the guns of the war of broken hearts
grow quiet
and the blood in your heart
is alive with good sounds--
tears and laughter and wonder
your own and those of your beloveds:
friend, son, daughter, partner,
grocery clerk,
all.
It isn't only make believe,
it is real magic if you want it:
go tell somebody you see them
and bravely ask for them to see you
the whole grand round--
let it in and give it
until your fur comes off.
© Kathleen Dunbar 2013
As a performer and singer-song writer with three CDs, I know the thrill of expression and also what we must face in ourselves in order to truly express. I am dedicated to helping my clients find, support and be alive in whatever they are passionate about bringing forth in their lives. Find me at 
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