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We are all meant to awaken and express our unique passions! 
That is life, love and creativity.

"What I do is me, for that I came."
--Wisdom from  the poet 
Gerard Manley Hopkins
 
Issue No. 5 March 2016

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Treats  for the Soul

PoetryPoem by Kathleen
 
Lakshmi Appears In the Form of An Old Lady 
 
There is an old lady
getting out of a geriatric van
that gives an hydraulic sigh
I can hear all the way into the café
as it whooshes three precious inches
closer to the pavement.
The old lady is
just making it away from the van steps
with the help of a wheely-walker
and two extra sets of arms:
the van driver with a "help the old lady smile"
and a younger woman
in an official-looking smock-
together they are the four-armed deity
who helps the old lady descend from on high.
They thread their way from the street
through an empty parking space,
just makin' it up on the sidewalk
perilously close to teetering over
and scraping the walker
on the special silver gunmetal paint job
of the $130,000 Porsche
in the parking space
next to their adventuresome path.
I sip my tea and watch through the coffee shop window
exhilarated with the effort,
my own muscles firing sympathetically
to help maneuver the walker
on it's perilous way.
The Porsche's driver is not in the car.
It's a close call, but-
they make it!
The old lady waves goodbye to the two
and looks ahead at the freedom and delights
of the neighborhood stores-
grinning like a maniac
she sports her own
special silver gunmetal paint job
in the coloring of her hairdo
and the sensible lines of her walker.
She's made it out of wherever she lives
and into the thick of things,
back in the hood!
The van pulls away
and the old lady delightedly
guns it down the sidewalk
as the driver of the Porsche appears,
unaware she is covered
in the dust of the old lady's getaway.
The Porsche driver,
a bored-looking, able-bodied woman
perhaps oblivious
at this moment
of the great gift of physical mobility
hangs up her cell phone, sighs,
and slips into her sexy machine.
 
I finish my tea.
The old lady has gone her way down the street
and the woman in the Porsche has driven off
in the opposite direction,
the parking spaces
filled now with ordinary cars. . .
when suddenly I hear laughter
arising fresh from my depths,
the sound splashing between the café windows
and the espresso machine.
My friend the young barista catches the wave
and calls out to my delight,
"That's Kathleen Dunbar in the house!"
 
I aim someday
to be such an old lady
with a well polished gleam
in my eye,
but it is so radically honest
so difficult
so irrational and
such the right thing: to be here
to surrender to the laughter and surprise
of standing upon this moment
to savor my body drenched in this life.
 
Thanks to the old dear
I catch a glimpse of myself as I truly am,
bejeweled and dazzling
astonished at the bling of me
of us all
of our fine wide souls when we let them shine!
I'm worn out from working so hard
when it's not necessary.
I unabashedly laugh out loud
through my sweet warm tears,
I grin like a maniac!-
these are my acts of gratitude
in the wake of an old lady
disguised as Lakshmi.
 
© Kathleen Dunbar 2013
 
Big News!
I'm excited to announce:  
I've opened a SECOND office!
I'll be in San Francisco AND Marin!
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 I'm STILL in SAN FRANCISCO!
  @ 16 Blake Street, San Francisco, 94118
---------and---------
I'm ADDITIONALLY now in
MILL VALLEY 
@45 Camino Alto, Mill Valley, CA 94941


Transformational Inquiry
How to Create Your Mobile Village Circle! 

Article"It Takes A Village" Resourcing Visualization 
 
This is a nourishing experience for clients, therapists, and all of us humans!
 
  • Find a comfortable and quiet place to sit and let the activities of the day drop away bit by bit.
  • Have a good stretch and yawn.
  • Take a few deep breaths with an audible sigh on the outbreath (audible sighs--"aaahhhh"--actually have an immediate effect of calming the nervous system).
  • Feel into your heart. If you want to you can place a hand on your heart.
  • Now, let someone who you know is on your side come to mind. Let it be someone really, really easy (ie, not someone whose relationship is tricky at the moment, even if you love them a lot). Let your heart show you someone who just brings an "Ah!" or a "Yum!" or a "Yes! Of course!" The person could be living, or passed, a teacher or a spirit: A friend, a partner, an (easy) family member, granny, a mentor. It could be the Dalai Lama or Quan Yin.
  • Now, "place" the person next to you exactly where it feels the best for you to have them. Is this person on your right side, left side, standing behind you, sitting in front of you? Let them be at the just-right distance. Let your intuition and heart-sense guide you. This is a really important step--really place the person where it feels best.
  • Let's say your friend Alice comes to mind. Let the history of you and Alice come up--in your mind's eye see or remember all the times Alice has supported you, the times you've laughed together, how she believes in you, her kindness.
  • Now, take a few deep breaths, and really feel what is happening on the side of your body nearest your friend Alice. For example, you think of your friend Alice, and it feels natural to have her seated to the left of you. So feel what happens in your left side as she is "there" with you. Do you relax, feel more spacious, feel more confident, more joyous, more seen? What do you notice?
  • Really let the good feelings spill over into other parts of your body. Take your time with this.
  • Notice any shifts in sensations, flow, relaxation, life force, beliefs, confidence, etc. that this relationship helps remind you of and ground you in.
  • Is there anyone else you'd like to bring in? For example, your friend Mike comes to mind, and it feels just right to have him stand behind you. Do you remember that metaphor, "He has my back," or "She backs me up!" This phrase is an expression of an important felt sense we actually have of someone in our inner circle physically, literally, energetically and emotionally being there to support us. When someone "has our back" then our nervous system, spine and back muscles relax, and it's easier for us to feel into our Wise Selves.
 
  • In my metaphor of the "three" nervous systems, I tell clients that we have the hyper/activated system, the hypo/offline system, and "The Happy Village Nervous System." We are wired biologically to be able to be present when our loved ones show us with their faces and eyes that we are welcome and safe. When we feel their presence--be it their actual physical presence, or in "heart time," ie. bringing them to memory--our face and eyes relax, our heart relaxes (and we are calmer), and our gut relaxes (and we can digest) and we become more present and grounded. Bringing to mind who is in our inner circle, our special village, helps us to ground, return and deepen into our Wise Selves. When we live with a felt sense of those who love and believe in us, it is easier for us to feel into our intuition and life force, calm when we are upset, and celebrate our joy.
  • A special note about trees, pets and Big Bird: Sometimes we can be in a time in our lives where it's not so easy to have actual people near us. If that is the case, that's brilliant to know it and name it! Be easy on yourself! And, we still have a human need to have our special circle. I have found that in this case redwood trees are very popular with folks! Any kind of tree or plant that has a special significance will do. Sometimes it's a pet that is our ally. I've known someone to call on Big Bird. Anybody or anything that helps us feel safe is perfect!
  • As a preface or addendum to this exercise, I ask clients if they know how crowded my office is! They look at me in surprise! I say yes, I have my partner, friends, mentors, colleagues all here with me. At first I had to learn to do this because I grew up quite alone in the woods, but I learned that I do have dear people in my life and of course I keep them around me. Now, I wouldn't do this job without them, and I wouldn't go to the grocery store without them! They go everywhere with me! We're wired to thrive with love, and we deserve to have our unique life force be recognized and welcomed in our village!
 
 
About Kathleen 

I call my therapy practice River of AboutKDLife Healing Arts. I call it this because the river, like the soul, has its own wisdom in finding its path. In our healing work together, I invite you to join me in the flow of life, and fully experience the wise currents of your own being. In indigenous traditions there is a sacred process people go through when they are ready to let go of their old, hurting stories and to embrace their new story. This is the practice of transformation.

 

When we take the leap to be our true selves, the road rises to support us in ways that we couldn't have imagined. I'll help you learn to hear, trust and follow your wisdom, and tap into your heartfelt and gut-sense knowing. Together we will find your new and beautiful story.

 

I've learned transformation, respect and love from the inside-out. What I know in my bones and heart I offer to you: I'm a Certified Hakomi Therapist; I use Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and Attachment work to resolve trauma; our palette includes movement, Continuum, imagery, creative expression, sand tray, dreamwork, indigenous perspectives, energy work and biodynamic cranial-sacral work. I love working with both individuals and couples.

As a  

performer

and  

singer-

song-

writer with three

CDs, I

know the

thrill of 

expression and also what we must face in ourselves in order to truly express. I am dedicated to helping my clients find, support and be alive in whatever they are passionate about bringing forth in their lives. Find me at www.kathleendunbar.net



Kathleen Dunbar, LMFT39880, Certified Hakomi Therapist    
PHONE:  415/668-5130 
EMAIL:   [email protected]
16 Blake Street, San Francisco, CA 94118
45 Camino Alto, Mill Valley, CA 94941
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